bananaboat11 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) I'm walking out of a store in a mini mall out near my university... and of course the recent ex is with a friend and I hear a "hi" with a smile and a wave... I look up and it's her. Her face, her voice were as if nothing happened. ruined my day. in shock and instinct, I said hello.. but kept walking. What the f*ck Edited July 15, 2010 by bananaboat11
skydiveaddict Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I thought it was no big deal to you. Is this the starbucks girl?
spriggig Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I'm forced in to LC with my STBXW who moved out almost four months ago. The first few contacts after she left were rough, I raged and cried on and off for the rest of the day and didn't sleep well. BUT, after several contacts it got easier and now, it's no big deal to see her. I'm not saying I'd be fine if I happened to see her out with a new guy for the first time, but I KNOW I'd be better off than if I had been in NC for all the time previous instead of LC. Would you be better off in your particular circumstances, if you initiated occasional contact on your own terms? Would you be better prepared for the unexpected random contact?
Author bananaboat11 Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) I thought it was no big deal to you. Is this the starbucks girl? Yes. And I thought so too. It bothers me more that it appears to me that to her nothing happened... and we're just taking space and eventually everything will be ok. Edited July 15, 2010 by bananaboat11
Author bananaboat11 Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 I'm forced in to LC with my STBXW who moved out almost four months ago. The first few contacts after she left were rough, I raged and cried on and off for the rest of the day and didn't sleep well. BUT, after several contacts it got easier and now, it's no big deal to see her. I'm not saying I'd be fine if I happened to see her out with a new guy for the first time, but I KNOW I'd be better off than if I had been in NC for all the time previous instead of LC. Would you be better off in your particular circumstances, if you initiated occasional contact on your own terms? Would you be better prepared for the unexpected random contact? I'm going to sound 100% immature, but I want nothing to do with her. Ever.
Username37 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 My ex-girlfriend wished me happy birthday and sent me condolences for my grandpa. I felt like **** for weeks. They're being nice because they feel bad for hurting you. They don't want to look like a bitch. So their "friendship" offer is not genuine. Just to make themselves feel better.
mickleb Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 What is the question? I don't understand. WTF what? Sh:t happens. We bump into our exes. Are you asking for sympathy? If so, (despite the fact that many think you made a lot more out of this short relationship, with someone who was still attached to her ex, than was healthy) you will probably get it by posting here. If so, my advice would be try to articulate what it is you want more clearly and be more accepting of what life can throw in your face, occasionally. Actually, that's pretty good advice for all of us, I reckon. (But that's just me, blowing my own beautifully polished, anti-torch-song trumpet. Like I do, sometimes.) x
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