PCuK1993 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I POSTED THIS IN SECOND CHANCE AND BREAK UP, PLEASE DELETE ONE OF THEM WHICH THE ADMIN THINK ISN'T THE RIGHT AREA, THANKS! Some places might not make sense, I really rushed it, Sorry about that People don't get confused. Ex-Girlfriend = The girl I love right now, not the past girl before, this starts when I go shopping etc, you'll understand when you read on. First, ignore my name. I myself want to keep it in private, im sorry about that everyone. But to my experience now. I myself quite awhile ago at age 13 to age nearly 15, has been in some medium/long relationship, the 2 years nearly i've been in a 5,4,7 month relationship with these girls. I however moved on in a week or so which I recall back I was quite heartless, but maybe because it was my age. It's been nearly 2 years that I haven't had a relationship, my school mates even thought I was turning 'gay' due to me rejecting quite some pretty girls. The last girl I went with for 7 month made me think, I need to stop wasting time with someone I don't even love or im not even having fun which led me rejecting girls. Now im 16, pretty close to turning 17. I met a girl which I started talking to, It was fun talking to her and stuff, we even would meet and walk to school together and of course going home. She even invited me to watch her play some sport games after school. She really attracted me, not just by looks but her personality and how happy I was with her. I then later ask her out in a special way, she then said yes etc. We had fun, we both really liked each other during the first month, that is when my feeling started not liking her, but loving her. We never argued and had fun whenever we went out etc. I did many things which a girl would like of a boyfriend to do. But after the month, one day I thought I won't text her until she text me, because I'm always the one texting first. This is when the problem started, that day she had a thought does she like me as a boyfriend or as a friend. She didn't say nothing to me, because it was close to Prom (Suits and Dresses party for last year at school). The next day after prom, we both met each other, she then told me her feeling was just friends but she did like me in the month being. I was shocked and confused, I didn't know what to say, I gradually accepted it and we broke up. However she said we can still be friends. I however, missed her already on the same day. My life completely changed! I even had tears, when deleting photo's with her on a social website. It recalled my memories with her and I felt really emotional. She was a girl perfect to me, I had more fun in the one month compared to the other long relationship girls. My temper changed really bad, I really was frustrated and emotional at the same time. I still text her, but my heart goes crazy at times. One day, her mate told me want to go shopping with us. She was also coming. I knew some of my other friends was going too, I knew one of them had a crush on her. I wanted to protect her and stuff, so I went. Also some reason I knew that she would wear the same clothes when we first went shopping with each other, therefore I wore the same and it really did happen. We then went shopping and stuff, we laughed at our jokes at each other at times, but it was hard to make a conversation with her. She laughed more with my friend than me which wasn't a pleasant feeling. It seemed like I lost. But I didn't give up because of that. We then went to a pub, had a game of snooker. I myself is quite 'pro' at snooker, however I played like I didn't know how to play like a noob or a suck person. The first challenge was my ex girlfriend. I went really easy on her, she then won. One of her mates was next, I went easy on her too and lost, but then my friend said I was bad and stuff, then I was like stuff it and beat some other friends quite badly (they only had 2 or 3 hits). My Ex and my friend (the one with the crush) played, she lost to him. I challenged him, he said he could beat me with his eyes close etc. I must say he gave me a challenge but I still beat him. Then people knew I went easy on her but she just ignored it, but I knew deep down her heart, she still missed me, I just had a feeling that she did. My friend then realised that I still liked her or loved her, he was then quiet then on (I think). It was time to go home, all my friends and her friends live opposite to us. So us two was walking home together. I was really surprised on how we got on, we went into a conversation straight away, we was smiling and happy and stuff. I even apologize for taking it easy on her twice. We then stopped at a shop, I lied and said I was buying something. I remember I promised to get her favourite crisp after prom (we messed around that you don't want to be fat before prom and stuff, she said it to me too so ya know haha). I hid it of course behind me. When it was time to walk on different roads, I shouted her name and said 'I promised to get you this after prom' and showed it her and gave it her, she then said 'you've done too much for me' . But I replied 'Promise is a Promise' . I then ask honestly did she ever miss me, she said that she missed me only as a friend still although my heart says that she ain't found her true feeling yet. I then asked her that if we had a chance to go back like before all fun and stuff right now, would you? She then replied 'I don't know' , I however then suggested her to think for these next 3 days, which is currently now, she has 2 days left to reply. Im in love with this girl alot and I mean alot, I could even give up 10 years of my life just to have 1 full day just me and her. No sarcasm, I never knew what was first love or something, I never had this strong feeling with my past girlfriends. I just really want her to be by my side. I know many of you had worse experience but, I am really worried about the result, I however had prepared myself to this answer. Im just wondering, that was all this a good idea, should I have left it for sometime? Thanks for reading this bunch of story. The relationship is present right now, so yeah! (P.S When I tried posting, it said require to sign in, I was then so mad, good thing it saved all my stuff when I pressed back hehe)
Maverick1983 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I know you are going through a tough time but as you might have read I am also in a unfamiliar place with my ex. You might say that other peoples experiences are worse but to you they are not.To be honest to you and this is from my experience your girl is thinking about things and while you are there as a so called friend this makes it easier for her to make a decision that mightn't be good for you or involve her true feelings for you.It will take more than 3 days for her to make a proper decision.Give her time and while she is taking this time use the oppurtunity to possibly work on making yourself more appealing to her by thinking more about yourself rather than her.Seriously she has the oppurtunity to feed her ego now while your there but if she thought for a second that you were ok this might get her thinking more.I don't buy into the whole mind games trick to win back a woman I prefer being honest and if that doesn't work maybe she isn't the right one.I do however believe in fighting for her but not in a desperate way but more as a man who is confident and knows what he wants.Good luck!!
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