Blue6 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I wish my ex congrats on finishing her masters degree?
lunita Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 You probably expect a response and then more based on that response and if you don't get it you are setting yourself up to get hurt.
Joe Dirt Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I am in the same boat but havent reached that time yet. I am still "attached" to my ex and she completes the first part of her masters next week. I was going to send a congrats to her. But last week we stopped talking so I dont know if I should. I think the same way as you in what is the harm, I still care about this girl and would hope for a response other than "thanks". It is still a dilemma of mine wheter to do it or not. But like lunita says, it is setting up for hurt. But if you are not still somewhat interested. Guessing you are since you reached out to her, but do what your gut says... Thats what I have been doing... doesnt always work but hey at the end of the day you did what you wanted...
Author Blue6 Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Honestly. Her masters is the only thing that still connects me to her life. She was out of character and ended things a few months into her year long program and I was devastated. We haven't spoken since January and I don't expect us to speak soon. However, I was madly in love with this person and simply letting her go because there were a matter of miles between us was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I quit facebook and she is 2500 miles away, there is nothing connecting us anymore so I don't have to be reminded of her. In a weird way, its my closure to be able to wish her well and say goodbye. I know that doesn't make a whole lot of sense, I get my last word and I can move on with my life. Am I setting up myself for hurt, sure, can she hurt me anymore, NO.
lunita Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Then I think you've answered your own question. In the end we can preach NC all we want but we have to do what we think is right in the end.
Joe Dirt Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Then do it.... Its about what you want to do, not what this message board says. Now for me, I am in the opposite boat. Am I setting myself up for hurt yes, can she still hurt me, I guess thats yes also.... But ultimately to each his own..... Do what feels right, when it feels right...Say what you want when you want... Dont rely on others and do your own thing
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