dla0519 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I met my ex several months ago through mutual friends. Right off the bat things were great! He treated me and my kids so well and was affectionate etc.. After a couple months he told me he loved me and I said I loved him too. We never had any fights and got along so well. He would spend every weekend with me till Monday morning and then on Wednesday nights as well. Two weeks ago on a Wed. night he was over he seemed deep in thought but said nothing was wrong. We went to bed, he kissed me good night and I woke up at 2am and he was gone. I tried to call him and he didn't answer, I went to email him and he already emailed me saying "Baby, you are wonderful and I will always love and care about you but you know I am not the man for you just as much as I know you are not the woman for me. I am so sorry." Since then I did everything I shouldn't have like sending emails and trying to call and I just pushed him away further. I stopped for a few days but yesterday I emailed him that he had some things at my house still. He replied with "Thank you for holding onto them for me. It will be nice when we can be friends. I've missed you" I replied with I miss you too but no reply from him. This came out of nowhere. We were happy and he just left with no warning. He is bipolar and does not take meds so I am wondering if this is normal for someone with bipolar disorder to do? How do I get him to talk to me? If he misses me why isn't he talking to me?
spiderowl Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Sorry but the man is callous and thoughtless. He just disappeared on you without explanation initially. At least he responded to an email, but what a way to break up with someone. Whatever his mental state, you do not deserve this. He isn't the man for you because the man for you would treat you with respect and kindness. He is just a coward. You may want to be his friend in the hope that he will come back, but if it was me there would not be a friendship. Once someone just walks out like that, they don't deserve a second chance. It is utterly disrespectful and cowardly. You have done nothing wrong and behaved with kindness and consideration towards him. Believe me, you are wasting yourself on this excuse of a man. You deserve someone with your own level integrity, who knows how to treat people. There will be someone better, I know that.
Author dla0519 Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 You are correct, it was very cowardly. His answer to everything is to up and run. The only excuse he gave me is that we don't think alike. Well,NO ONE does! He even told me I did nothing wrong and was great. I bent over backwards for him and three days before he left I threw him a 40th birthday party.I have to just keep reminding myself that he would keep doing this every time he gets scared. But every day is a battle to not contact him.
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