qinboxmail Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Okay, I've been going out with my gf for 3 years. We were planning to have an wedding by next year but yesterday she broke off with me. She said that I do not care for her like when she's sick I suppose to go and buy her food. And suppose to ask her parents how they're doing when I come over. It's those tiny things that she said have been bothering her for three years. She said she can't take it anymore. She said we're not compatible. I asked her if she would give me a chance and she seemed really mad and evil. She said "N O". Normally I said sorry and she seems to be okay but this time she seemed very firm with her answers. I tried to ask her many time for her to come back. Now her phone is off when I call her. Is she a goner or is there anything that I can do to work it out ?
Jilly Bean Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I think she's done. Sounds like she has tried to tell you what the problems were in the relationship for years, and your blanket response was, "sorry". God, that would SO piss me off and eventually drive me to dump you, too! Seriously! You sound very selfish and like you weren't very involved in maintaining the relationship, nor making your GF happy. Learn from this...
lunita Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Give her some space for a week or two and see if she contacts you. For now you just need to let her go. "For now." Please don't freak out. Freaking out will only make it worse.
carhill Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 (edited) She said that I do not care for her like when she's sick I suppose to go and buy her food. And suppose to ask her parents how they're doing when I come over.This is her truth. Does it match up with *her* actions, in that she takes care of you when you're sick and/or interacts and is interested in your parents? If not, it's just a mind-f*ck for her to justify leaving. Pay it no mind. I got a similar mind-f*ck from stbx long before we separated and before my EA and, once clear of the emotions of the moment, realized it for what it was. Bye-bye Regardless, accept reality and NC her. You're young. Many potentials await. She's just one human in billions. Good luck Oh, adding, my instinct about the mind-f*ck is based upon the premise that an uncaring, abrasive, self-involved man is not going to join LS to get advice or validation for his perspective. He'll just keep on doing what he's doing, without a care. Edited July 14, 2010 by carhill
Star Gazer Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 It's those tiny things that she said have been bothering her for three years. What she described may be tiny things to you, but to her (and many women) their just examples of a HUGE character flaw. When she's sick, you're not there for her. What woman would want that kind of man?
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Plenty of people rewrite their relationship history and play the blame game when they don't have the nuts to say why they are really leaving. What to do? Leave it be. Those little things probably have little, if anything to do with why she is bailing on you.
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