cookiecrumbles Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Ok so we all know the procedure. 1. We get dumped 2. We pine and beg and over analyze any little thing 3. We try to deal with our ex`s (texts, emails, phone calls) but eventually give in and reply 4. Try find ways we may be able to get them back 5. Come on here trying to find a positive story of someone getting back with their ex so we can maybe try it too 6. We Dont listen to the advice on here about NC until its too late I know after a break up we ask ourselves how the dumper could have blindsided us or how they can seem to be friends so easy when we find it extremely hard or why they can just send us messages syaing they still love us and mess with our heads. Well: 1. They have probably thought in their head about ending the relationship way before they actually decided to 2. Right before they dump you they have most likely managed to extract any emotional feelings left behind for you 3. They are ready to just be friends because they have been falling out of love with you or been able to get over you for a few months now 4. You find it hard to be friends because your process of moving on has just started, while theres was months ago 5. They can play with your head and say anything because they arent afraid of losing you 6. They know they have you wrapped around their finger and that feels good, its a great ego and confidence boost 7. You are a comfort thing, they will go to you to talk and say what they want because their used to it, not because they might be thinking i want to get back with you, its comfort knowing you are always there, and until they find someone else they will keep you hanging. 8. If you show you dont care it makes them angry, not because of you but because it takes away the power from them.
lunita Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 "8. If you show you dont care it makes them angry, not because of you but because it takes away the power from them." So messed up!!!!!!!!!!!!
Joe Dirt Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Wow, I have to say this is one of the more true statements posted on this site. All us dumpees never realize those things until #7 comes along and you are old news. Believe me, it just recently happened to me. I was strung along for 7 months only to find out she has interest in someone else. Well guess what, after wanting to talk 3-4 times a week she suddenly does not want to talk at all... I wish I would have read this post last year, but still while you are going through this time you only listen to yourself and your feelings. Most people cannot think clearly and end up worse off in the end. I have been in NC for about a week now after 6 years of relationship. Its hard but I am trying. Next week will be an important date and I may break NC to call. But I will try to be strong. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t237586/
HopeLove Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Unfortunately all these is so true and yet we still nurished some hope until time starts being in our side and help us to move on.
lullaby Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Unfortunately all these is so true and yet we still nurished some hope until time starts being in our side and help us to move on. So true... so true.... f****
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