melissa123 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 How am Isupposed to get over this guy when Icant stop dreaming about him!!???! I have woken up this morning and for the third night in a row I dreamt about him. The first two nights he was msging my phone telling me he can't wait to see me etc and last night we were at a party together cuddling. Its like im right back at step one every stupid morning. Im trying so hard. I have gone total NC, I stopped stalking him on facebook and deleted his status updates so I see nothing about him, im trying to keep busy but I just keep dreaming about him which puts me right back at step one every morning Also Ive stopped posting on my own facebook site as I want a break from it, however since ive done that he has started posting on our mutual friends wall. He has only met her once with me and she has a bf but they rant on about how much they love each other etc. What is with this? She trains with me and he is asking her all about it and how she did at a competiton we were both at but he never bothered to ask me. I saw this as I was on her site btw not his!! Ahhh I just want him out my head!! Any tips?
TaraMaiden Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Yes. Stop thinking about him during the day. They're not dreams, but continuations.
Author melissa123 Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Im trying so hard to Its not easy just to get him off my mind, although I wish it was. I feel really sad today
TaraMaiden Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 You need to read this thread. It's amazing. Trying won't cut it. Doing it, will cut it. Read the thread, and see how.
Author melissa123 Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 (edited) wow that is a really good post thanks! I printed it out lol Isn't it strange how the universe works. I dreamt of him again last night but this time I dreamt that he rejected me and was flaunting another girl infront of me!! I woke up and didn't rush to check my phone for once but when I did get round to it he had actually msged me during the night!!!! A male mate of mine and I were having a joke about going for a trip to Russia. As a joke btwn him and my other mates I posted 'can't wait for my trip to Russia' on my facebook site. He must have seen and not understood the joke as later on that night he actually msged me and asked about it and when I was going etc! I know I shouldnt have to ask but I don't reply ay? I almost feel kinda rude not replying!! Ahh Edited July 15, 2010 by melissa123
TaraMaiden Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Do NOT reply. It's none of his business. you'd have to either admit to the ruse, which would show you up, or continue the lie - which would show you up. Let him wallow in the mystery. Say nothing. Keep him guessing. And also, understanding that you have your own life now, and that he has no right to 'power' over you. Read and re-read that thread again, until you really, really "get it". Seeing it is one thing. Learning it, is one thing. Understanding it, is one thing. Knowing it, is one thing. "Realising it" is a different thing all together.
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