This Hurts Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I'm having an odd day and I feel I need some positive heartbreak stories to help bring my hopes up. I don't mean stories with people getting back with their ex's, since that's probably not happening in my case, just stories of people who have gotten completely over really bad breakups. Anything anyone?
AlwaysConflicted Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 You may be fishing in the wrong waters for that question. Most of those stories are from people that are out living their lives right now and having a blast. Is this your first breakup?
CLC2008 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I'm having an odd day and I feel I need some positive heartbreak stories to help bring my hopes up. I don't mean stories with people getting back with their ex's, since that's probably not happening in my case, just stories of people who have gotten completely over really bad breakups. Anything anyone? 1st LTR lasted three years, 1st love and it was a good relationship so I guess that doesn't count in correlation to your thread. 2nd LTR was 6 years, in the end turned out to be bad, 100% over it have not seen and/or spoken with. Complete indifference. There was one from two years ago, not sure I'll ever be over it 100%, but I am doing okay nonetheless.
Author This Hurts Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Is this your first breakup? Yes. 1st LTR lasted three years, 1st love and it was a good relationship so I guess that doesn't count in correlation to your thread. 2nd LTR was 6 years, in the end turned out to be bad, 100% over it have not seen and/or spoken with. Complete indifference. There was one from two years ago, not sure I'll ever be over it 100%, but I am doing okay nonetheless. Thank you. Stuff like this really does help, believe it or not.
cookiecrumbles Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Ok ill try mine! I used to come on here devastated about my first relationship, looking for answers, thinking maybe if i tryed something they would come back. Truth is nothing ever happened, I just had to deal with it myself and go through that tough time by myself and learn for myself for next time. I wont lie it took me a long time to get over that relationship, but i did eventually and now i look back and even think, oh my god what was i was thinking, i was so blinded by lust and love (or what i thought that was) that i wasnt thinking clearly. I used to think i would never find someone else that ifelt that way about but now years later i have found someone even better who treats me way better and makes me realise everything happens for a reason. I went through those hard times and now i appreciate everyting even more and dont take things for granted. It takes time but i came out positive and with someone way better, no reason why anyone else cant. My best advice is definately no contact! Dont let them mess with your head. Focus on yourself else it just prolongs the process.
Shakz Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I'm a 48-year-old male who has had about a dozen serious relationships in my life. The longest lasted about three years. Except for one they all ended well, basically for the reason that even though we still loved each other, we eventually couldn't stand the sight of each other. I am a serial monogamist. I remain friends with every one of them, and yes, we have had a few of those had those ugly re-ups, but mostly for nostalgia's sake. I wish my life had played out differently, but you play the cards you're dealt.
marsle85 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 As cliche as it sounds, what you need to do is find your own happiness. Don't rely on a relationship, nor the "positive stories" from others. I think it's sad you haven't found the person who will be with you "forever", respect you, honor you and make you a better person... odd thing is, that person is really *you*. The people in our lives, be it romantic, plantonic, familial, whatever- they guide us... but this life is yours, your voice is yours. Your life is about YOUR path. You're driving the car, some people just hop in the passenger's seat for a while. I even used asterisks, which I never do. So I mean it.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Yes! My partner left me a year ago this week after 18 years, left cos I neglected him the last 3 years as I was so busy, still had love for each other, always will. I was in bits for 6-7 months, was still meeting my ex, as friends, I was very depressed. After 7 months I stopped contact, the first few days were hell but then it got easier bit by bit, I started new jobs, made new friends rebuilt my life back up. I have also met someone, and I think we have something special, and that is something I never ever thought could happen, I thought my ex was the only person for me that he was the love of my life, well he was for 18 years. I am good friends with him now, we meet once a week, but friendship with ex's is not always possible for everyone. I am totally over my ex now, I can even handle the fact he's with an old friend of mine and I dreaded them getting together, but it doesn't matter now. So YES there is hope!! I'm having an odd day and I feel I need some positive heartbreak stories to help bring my hopes up. I don't mean stories with people getting back with their ex's, since that's probably not happening in my case, just stories of people who have gotten completely over really bad breakups. Anything anyone?
Ilovecake Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 My story. Lived with my boyfriend, he dumped me on my birthday (almost 2 years ago) because I found out he was messing around with a girl 16 years younger than me. He now lives with her and is engaged to her. I pretty much went NC from the beginning, a few times he contacted me and I spoke with him or saw him to talk but always went NC after because I wasn't into being friends. He always stayed mad at me for not wanting to be in his life. It's at a point now where friends are telling me he loses his mind whenever he finds out something good is happening in my life and since the breakup a lot of great things have happened in my life while his is completely falling apart. He’s lost 3 jobs, moved 5 times, is engaged to someone he doesn’t really love but is marrying to prove a point. He even said he got engaged partly to piss me off. The great thing about all of that is even though I feel like I'm in a place most dumpees dream of and I dreamt of at first, I really don't care. I’m no longer set on revenge. I've lost all curiosity as to what he is doing and feel 100% over it while he's still struggling with his decision. These days I'm actually thankful he dumped me.
Author This Hurts Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Thank you all. Sometimes when I'm down and feel like the pain is never-ending, success stories do help and remind me this isn't forever.
HeavenOrHell Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Glad it helps. It really ISN'T forever Thank you all. Sometimes when I'm down and feel like the pain is never-ending, success stories do help and remind me this isn't forever.
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