it started as a friendship and here we r 4 yrs later

[imnotshy34]

ok i need an opinion from s

omeone not involved...._ i met this guy 4yrs thru some friends..iam and married and was married at the time but has since been divorced....iam part of that reason but im over that part....when he was going thru divorce i was there for him whenever i would go sleep at night with him just so he could sleep at night his brother would call me to go pick him up if he had been drinkin and need a ride ok i sure u can see where this going....over the past 3yrs we talk got together off and on and then this past feb everything changed we started talkin all the time i was stayin at his house on weekends we were meetin on roads he couldnt get enough of me and i him...then he just backed off about 3wks ago and it has been a rollar coaster ride he talk to me one day and then i might not hear frome him for 2 or 3 days i have fallen so hard at this point i dont no what to do or feel...i ask him if he was seein someone else he said no and i have no reason not to believe him....he has committment prob and he will tell me that....so this past saturday we talked and he knows i am in love with him but he cant tell me where our relationship stands other than he would miss me terribly if i wasnt around...and then 2 wks ago we were swimming in his pool and had a few to drink and he told me he loved me than swam off and has not brought it up since.........do i have anything to hold on to..........

:oso confused

[lostsunsets]

I hope these words burn into your consciousness, and that every time you look at him you think of them. IF HE'LL CHEAT WITH YOU, HE'LL CHEAT ON YOU. Its what you deserve.

Edited July 14, 2010 by lostsunsets

[jnj express]

Your beginning line was confusing, is he the only one that was married----I assume you are single---is that right????

 

Also the previous poster----gave it to you spot on!!!!!!

[imnotshy34]

no i am still married......i am in a very rocky relationship with an alcoholic......i have 4 children i have to think about before i just pack up and go......

 

am i just being dumb to ask just because they cheated 1 time in a 16 yr marriage they are always going to cheat?

[LucreziaBorgia]

He is getting exactly what he wants: a casual dating/sex relationship with someone he never has to worry about committing to or having to help support four kids. The more you try to push it further than that, the further away he will drift. If you want to keep him around for a while, you will have to stop talking about relationship stuff and asking him what he does with his free time.

[jnj express]

OK so let me get this straight ---you are married, and have 4 kids of your own with an alcoholic H., who at this point you don't like---

 

You have also been sleeping with another guy for 4 yrs., this other guy has gone thru a D.----and you claim to be his support----so you give him sex, sleep with him etc., etc., Is this right??????

 

If this is true----who the hell is more important in your life----some cheater, who you will never end up with, who has used you for 4 years----OR YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD CHILDREN---who you are also cheating on, and when it all hits the fan, they will be scarred for life, and the big losers-----Do I have it right????????