Author 2sure Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 You know, my best best friend just finalized her D under the same circumstances as my own. Awful. She is ok. She does not miss him, does not miss being married. Although she cannot imagine dating...she is absolutely concerned about getting sex. As in without conversation, expectations, breakfast, but some discretion. I'm not even there...but I get it. Even a FWB would irritate her. Now that I think about it...omg...this is why some people have affairs in the first place. I'm glad I'm not having sex.
marlena Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 You know, my best best friend just finalized her D under the same circumstances as my own. Awful. She is ok. She does not miss him, does not miss being married. Although she cannot imagine dating...she is absolutely concerned about getting sex. As in without conversation, expectations, breakfast, but some discretion. I'm not even there...but I get it. Even a FWB would irritate her. Now that I think about it...omg...this is why some people have affairs in the first place. I'm glad I'm not having sex. Yes, it most certainly is a case of "Different Strokes for Different Folks." The important thing is to NOT do something that you do not feel like doing. If you don't feel like having sex, that's cool. If you do, that's cool, too. Sex was the furthest thing from my mind after my divorce and then one day about a year later, I was having lunch with a friend and there was this gorgeous man sitting at the next table and.....well, I changed my mind on the spot. It lasted a couple of months, casual, no strings attached and it was wonderful. I guess what I am trying to say is you can't ever know what the morrow will bring so live in the moment and let tomorrow take care of itself.
BalenciagaSpain Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) Oh, you just weren't ready. My divorce has been final for a year, and I am still cautious to a fault. You stuck your toe in the water, it just wasn't right. It could have been worse, you could have vomited on him or something. Give yourself some time. Hmm, I figured he kept your wrap for some reason. Edited July 15, 2010 by BalenciagaSpain
BalenciagaSpain Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) I came here to LS because I was having some anger issues that have popped up lately after I thought I had reached some acceptance. I think it might be because I am getting out more socially. Having to say I'm divorced irritates me. It makes me feel like I have FAILURE written on my forehead. I hope that once you work through everything, it doesn't come back up like it appearantly has for me. Edited July 15, 2010 by BalenciagaSpain Grammar
marlena Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) I came here to LS because I was having some anger issues that have popped up lately after I thought I had reached some acceptance. I think it might be because I am getting out more socially. Having to say I'm divorced irritates me. It makes me feel like I have FAILURE written on my forehead. I hope that once you work through everything, it doesn't come back up like it appearantly has for me. I don't know why failure is connected to divorce. The label I would proudly wear is courage...the courage to face life alone rather than remain in a relationship that has simply run its course. Personally, I think I have come out a winner ... I raised a fine daughter on my own and am quite content with my life. Edited July 15, 2010 by marlena
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