4givrnt4gtr Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 So I broke up with a guy i really cared for back in September of last year. Afterwards I didn't have much contact with him, I tried to keep being friends but basically didnt work. The last time i contact the guy was back in January, for my birthday. I sent him a message telling him that I just had remembered the year before when iwas with him and hope he was doing well. He didnt answer the message and didnt even bother to wish me a happy birthday Well, 7 months later I have moved on, I am in a new relationship with a man that treats me like a queen and I love him very much. The past two weeks though I have been very sick in the hospital and just not good. Somehow the guy from last year found out and sent me a whole page email about how he just wanted to make sure I was doing ok and telling me how happy he is where he is living now (the reason for our break up was cuz he moved to another city 8 hours away and he couldnt handle long distance). The whole thing was out of the blue, I thought he had completely forgotten about me. I really dont care about him at this point and basically hearing from me made me kinda....eek i dont know, irritated i guess. My question is....should i bother to answer with a curt "im ok thanks bye" response or just ignore it? On one hand i dont want him to think im still butt hurt about the break up...though i am for many reasons...so not answering might tell him im not over it. But then, in a way i feel he doesnt deserve any time at all from me given what happened..... What are your throughts? should I let it go or answer curtly?
AlwaysConflicted Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I think I'd respond to him. He didn't contact you initially because he couldn't deal with the breakup. This time he reached out to you because you were in the hospital so he's acting like a caring human being. It doesn't sound like he's trying to win you back. If you're feeling better, I would respond with a brief answer.
TouchedByViolet Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I think I'd respond to him. He didn't contact you initially because he couldn't deal with the breakup. This time he reached out to you because you were in the hospital so he's acting like a caring human being. It doesn't sound like he's trying to win you back. If you're feeling better, I would respond with a brief answer. I agree. This is a situation where a brief message is ok. It's not like he contacted you out of the blue, you were in the hospital and he is probably just being caring.
Treasa Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I wouldn't respond. Was the letter more about you or more about him and how well he's doing? That might change my mind, but I doubt it. He didn't respond to you on your birthday. I say F him, he doesn't need a response. And I think that because you're still hurt by what happened, sending back a response might make you feel worse in the long run. If the letter was more about you, then you can just write back thanks and that's it.
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