OFGnomore Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 How about instead of confronting him as a hurt wife OR disgusted woman, you do a little role playing and confront him on a man to man basis, i.e. straight up, to the point, pull no punches: "Hey you stupid douchebag I found out about the scuzzy porn like e-mails/come ons and so forth you are sending to your various women contacts at work. Don't try to bullsh*t me on this any longer, you horse's @ss. Either you're trying to get some side p*ssy or you're sure acting like it, it doesn't matter to me which it is. It stops NOW or I am lawyering up and kicking your sorry @ss to the curb." Edit: Have an initial consultation with a divorce lawyer before this confrontation. Get one of the lawyer's cards and hand it to your husband when you confront him. If he keeps doing it, divorce him. While I agree with your hard line approach with this gent, I think any man or person, that needs to be threatened, cajoled or begged to stay faithful isn't worth the effort. Cut your losses and cut him loose. And thank you for pointing out the fine term douchebag for cheating men. I think it's a misperception that women are the only one's who get the bad rep when cheating (slut, whore, etc). I think anyone who thinks that "boys will be boys" is the common view of the male cheater is a naive a**hat, who is probably a male cheater himself.
on1wheel Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Was he like this before you got married? If so, then you should not have married him. People who communicate like that are looking for something...I promise you that. All it takes is one woman to respond the same & you have a blossuming romance. My rule of thumb is "don't say or do anything you wouldn't in front of your spouse". Has worked pretty well for me so far. I wish more people had morals nowadays. Just seems like everyone is out to get a little on the side. Pathetic!!!
WalkInThePark Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 His comments are inappropriate and show great disrespect toward you. They also show disrespect towards the ladies who send him mails. If a colleague would talk to me like that in a mail, I would report him.
califnan Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Because of the way in which you have discovered this.. I would wait longer to bring this to his attention.. Unless this is just an on-line thing he does, he may slip and do it in front of you ...While on the phone, or out dining, etc .. You know he is doing it, you may want to wait longer before discussing it..
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