MelanieLynMarie Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 My SO has recently started to kick up his sexual desires. He talks about making love and other sexual acts throughout the day whenever we speak. Like what he would do to me if i was with him, tells me about dreams he's had about sex,talks about how much he wants to make love to me, etc... I don't know how to say this, but he almost seems a bit deperarate at times and i don't know if hes just really horny or he really wants to be with me. But i'm wondering, if its normal for guys to talk dirty more often once you feel comfortable with eachother. When I had first met him, we were too embarassed to even mention anything to do with sex, its been a year now.
Pyro Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 When it comes to a long distance relationship I think that dirty talk is normal and in some cases necessary. With the time apart you need to do something to keep the spark going. For me personally, the dirty talk started just before I could say I was 100% comfortable with her, but I was getting there.
Spiritofnow Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 MLM, Firstly, whose to say what is normal!?! I think it's more about what you feel comfortable with. Seems to me that he misses you and his way of keeping your intimacy alive while you are apart is to tell you what he fantasises about . I would see it as a compliment that he trusts you enough to let himself reveal those thoughts that he once found to uncomfortable to express. I think there could be a few dynamics wrapped up in his behaviour: He feels comfortable being this person with you now due to more trust etc. He wants to make you feel desired. He feels sexy and want to initiate sharing those ideas with you. He wants to ensure that your needs are met, so that you do not feel neglected. He enjoys sex and intimacy. Only, you know what is acceptable to you, and what makes you feel good. Why don't you ask him how he is feeling and what his intentions are?
aerogurl87 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Ya'll haven't met yet, right? Well look before my SO and I met in person we were sending the dirty texts every other day, of course it was also balanced out with us just talking about life in general and how happy and excited we were to finally meet. Now post first meeting we engage in the dirty texts alot too but as before it's balanced with just talking about regular stuff and the "I miss you"s and "I love you"s. So you have to ask yourself is his level of intimate, sexy texts alarming to you? Does it make you feel wanted in a good way or does it make you feel like he just sees you as a sex object? Also is there a good healthy balance in conversation or is it all just about sex now? Those answers will give you a good idea on how to look at the whole situation.
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