*NEW TO LS!!* I don't want him back, I just want him to miss me.

[livelife]

Hi. I'm new to LS and I needed more people to turn to and see what they think. my story is kind of long but i'll try to shorten it.

Me and my ex met last summer in July. we hit it off great and started talking/liking eachother. we went to a party one day and he met this girl there. He started to become interested in her. I talked to him and i said its either her or me, so decide now. he decided me but then he never made a move. i always felt like I was asking him to hang out. So again, i talked to him and he took that talk as I was done with him, when really it meant i was done with him making all the moves. Sooo, then he goes to the other girl, and they start to go out a little later. It hurt, but not too bad since we didnt actually date.

 

Me and him had LC from when he was dating this girl. After they broke up, he came to me and said how he missed talking to me, and how he made a mistake and wanted to hang out. we hung out, and we both still felt something for eachother.

 

We ended up going out and everything was amazing. He fell for me, and I fell for him. We were eachothers first everything. We broke up in march for reasons unknown. ( he was going on spring break and didnt know if he could handle it...all his friends were telling him to be single.) so me and him talked, and it went downhill. he started crying ( i was the first girl he ever cried infront of and about!!) and obviously i was crying soo hard too. After we talked i took him home, then he called me and said he couldnt be there without me, and he wanted to get back with me, so we kept talking. He was just honestly reallly confused on what he wanted.

 

That week we went and things were weird between us since that day so that Friday I called him and I ahd to break up with him, I was crying and he said things were just weird between us. so it had to be done. So we broke up ( this was late March) We never stopped talking since the breakup. After about a month we started hanging out again and eventually we hooked up. He kept telling me how much he missed kissing me. He was my prom date. We had talked about sex when we were together, and we talked about it when we broke up ( I know. HUGE mistake) soooo unfortunately on prom, yes we lost our virginity to eachother. He told me he wanted to lose his to the right girl, and that I was. A sweet, caring, beautiful girl and That was me. I forgot to add, he was going to ask me out on prom, but didnt.

THen we talked and he wanted to start things when summer got going, so my birthday was at the start of June. He was going to ask me out then, but again he didnt. His friend talked to me and said I needed to step up for myself and to stop letting him get to me, that He kept pushing back going out with me so he could hook up with more girls * jerk, right? * He kept telling me he wasnt sure, he wanted to be with me, just without a title, and have other girls too.

I said helllll no. So we talked and he said either we are friends or friends with benefits ( he said what we are now, but FWB was what we were. so i just put that) I said neither because both were/would hurt me. He said he didnt want me out of his life like that blah blah blah.

 

So that was That. that was on a Saturday. That night he goes out, meets this girl, she had a boyfriend. broke up with her boyfriend to be with my ex. a week later, dating. 5 days later, saying I Love you to eachother.

 

There have been multiple attempts that my ex has tried to be friends with me. 1. His friends have talked to me, He has mentioned it twice. All times I said No. I deleted him off facebook, deleted his number even though i have it memorized.

 

* One last thing I forgot to add. One time after He was asking me to be friends, his gf took his phone and texted me, " f you" found out later it was her. Then on his birthday, his friend told me i needed to call him. It surprised him but he sounded happy that I called. after he texted me and said that meant alot, thanks. Then his gf later texts me, " <3 thanks for the birthday wish" ugh! rude!! I was just trying to be nice, and I said that after she said that. None of his friends like her, they all hate her, and im still friends with his friends, they still call me up to hang out sometimes. Lastly, when his friends were telling me to be friends with him, they were with him, but not in the room. Little did I know it ended up to be on speaker phone RIGHT when he walked into the room. this was while I was saying " no i dont want to be his friend. I dont want to see him, i want nothing to do with him right now. im so mad at him what he did was soo d*ck."

 

Anyways, thats the jist of it hahaha. Im sooo sorry about this long story. Being new and all I had to get the story down for you guys!! Thanks for reading, and all your answers are appreciated!! I forgot to add he asked to be my friend on fb, I havent replied yet. He texted me last week asking if I was working, ( he wanted a smoothie... WHAT?)

 

All i'm saying is, I want him to miss me. I don't want him back, hes such a jerk. I just want to know that he misses me, and why did he ask me if I was working? He cant seem to respect the fact that I dont want to talk to him right now. Ugh.

[messymichelle]

soory to be kinda bliunt but if he want to hang out with other girls and just keep you as a friend with benifit, whats in it for you????

no relationship, no love, no TRUST and a whole lot of heartache and unhappiness that im sure that you could do without, he wants you as his booty call, a fall back plan is that all you are worth????

you sound like a sensible girl and i think that your looking to hear what you already know, forget about him go no contact and stay that way he isnt worth you thinking about if he misses you,

if he missed you or repected you than he wouldnt be doing all those things that annoy you.

you have acknowledged that he is a jerk, do you normally be friends with jerks???

again sorry to be blunt, but you did ask

go no contact and find someone that is worthy of YOUR friendship and what YOU have to offer in a relationship

 

good luck xx

[linwood]

All i'm saying is, I want him to miss me. I don't want him back, hes such a jerk.

 

What`s the point in this?

 

Are you really that insecure?

[Woggle]

Just forget about him. Don't waste your energy.

[TheLoneSock]

Lol, I hate to say it but this is so typical.

 

Everyone feels this way to some degree after a break up. Though few of us admit it. But to actively seek out what the OP wants is a different story. So, I hope you're not serious and/or making plans in an effort to make him miss you. That would be extremely immature.

[livelife]

thanks for the replies. I'm not making a huge effort in making him miss me. Its just that all of my friends ex's are coming back to them so it was making me jealous, i'll admit it.

 

I'm actually doing nothing, living my life trying to move on and talk to new guys, while remaining NC with my ex.