threebyfate Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 For anyone not familiar with MBTI types, Isabel Myers took the eight Jungian Cognitive functions and created 16 personality types based on 4 dichotomies. Here's the article. It appears that like personality types have much higher levels of marital satisfaction. If you don't know what type you are, here's an online MBTI test. I would strongly recommend that if you're going to take MBTI seriously, to get an official MBTI test given to you by a qualified professional. Online tests have a higher rate of inaccuracy than the official test. Overall, the most important factor is to be honest when taking any personality test. Don't skew the test with who you want to be or what you'd prefer to do. Respond as if you are actually doing. http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp My husband and I were both given the test by a friend who's qualified to do so. We discovered that we are identical personality types which is probably why our relationship and now marriage, runs so smoothly since we speak and act the same language of love.
demrea Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 ok, fine ... but what do you do once you find out your personality types are the opposite. you cant make people change and why would you want to?
Author threebyfate Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Insight into marriage and behaviours help. How each individual chooses to address it, is up to them. Or you can stick your head in the sand and ostrich.
demrea Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Insight into marriage and behaviours help. How each individual chooses to address it, is up to them. Or you can stick your head in the sand and ostrich. agree ... but once you have that insight, then what? knowledge is power, but its not always liberating.
Author threebyfate Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Insight into marriage and behaviours help. How each individual chooses to address it, is up to them. Or you can stick your head in the sand and ostrich. agree ... but once you have that insight, then what? knowledge is power, but its not always liberating.Requoted and bolded for reference. If you're fighting like cat and dog and don't realize why, insight might help to amend behaviours. If you're fighting like cat and dog and ready to pack it in, insight as to why the two of you aren't suitable can help. I'm no marriage counsellor and there's no one-size fits all for every couple. Just someone who enjoys learning and posting information, when it might possibly help others.
shadowplay Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I remember being an INFP. Don't know if this fits, but I'm generally attracted to men who are a bit vulnerable and sensitive, but not in a weepy, effeminate way. I mean sensitive in that they vividly experience and observe the world around them, as artists do, but also keep their passion somewhat guarded and only share it with people close to them or they throw it into their work. I like guys who have a bit of innocence, but the good kind that prevents them from being jaded. A small dose of social awkwardness is also appealing to me but combined with real charm that allows them to have a number of good friends. I don't like guys who are withdrawn, depressed or overly cynical. But smoothness is a turn off as well, as I think of it as a feminine trait. So I guess on the four parameters I'd describe my type 1. E/I: extroverted in the sense of being friendly and having a number of friends, but with a trace of introversion in that they're not smooth and that they may feel shy on the inside even though they're well-liked. 2. N/S: Mostly intuitive, but not irrational. Has common sense. 3. F 4. P/J: Another combo. I like guys who can get stuff done, but aren't bound by routine.
OWoman Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I'm INFP and my H is ISTJ. We find the complementarity works really well. I have several INFP friends, and I sure wouldn't want to live with them 24X7. I think being TOO alike would get to me; our differences engage and excite me.
Alma Mobley Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 We both took the test before. I'm an INTJ and he's an ENFP. Wonder how it will work out...
TaraMaiden Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Wow. I'm in exactly the right profession, and I'm likened to Martin Luther King and Eleanor Roosevelt. (they're both "my" types!) I can handle that! My partner hasn't done it, but I might let him have a go.....If he can be bothered...!
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I conducted my own MBTI experiment with people in my life. I got my boss to take the test a while ago (while still having a crush on him) and he is ENFP while I am INFP. I felt that we get along reasonably well. However, I got few more people from my office to take the test, including this woman that I can't stand and we don't get along at all. We end up arguing during every meeting. She got ENFP too... this kind of made me doubt MBTI. I have also found that my best and most loyal office friend is ENTP.. So according to the test we should have F/T conflict, but things between us have always been easy and natural. These were online tests though and my sample size is small. The only consistent thing is that all these people were Ns and they all work in research...which kind of makes sense.
Ariadne Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Ok, I finally took this test: ISFP whatever this means, and the second S was only 1%. Is this accurate?
Ariadne Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 It appears that like personality types have much higher levels of marital satisfaction. Yeah. Opposites don't usually attract so much.
sally4sara Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Woohoo! I'm a Stephen Hawking/Marie Curie personality type!
Ariadne Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Well, only you can tell that!! Is like reading the horoscope: "Romantically, the ISFP approaches intimacy with complete attention, seriousness and depth. They experience romance through their senses, and welcome the chance to interact with their mate at this level. They are not likely to express their feelings verbally, believing that actions speak louder than words."
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Ok, I finally took this test: ISFP whatever this means, and the second S was only 1%. Is this accurate? It means that you are borderline S/N so read both INFP and ISFP and see what fits you better.
Ariadne Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 It means that you are borderline S/N so read both INFP and ISFP and see what fits you better. Is like a buch of mumbo jumbo, I mean, I don't believe someone this type is all those things it says there. And then, everyone has a bit of anything in them as well.
Ariadne Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Woohoo! I'm a Stephen Hawking/Marie Curie personality type! I'm like Britney Spears and Ashton Kutcher.
SadandConfusedWA Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 To be honest, I have studied MBTI extensively. It has fancy theory behind it and does have some merit, I just didn't find it holds true as much in practice (as in people are not the types you would expect them to be, even the people you know really well). Even with my own type, I find that some things in the description don't ring true (and I have always tested strongly as INFP). I have found the enneagram test better: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enneagram_of_Personality According to that test, I am a type 4 "The Individualist" and the way that type is described is so accurate for me - I felt goose bumps reading it. It nailed my personality 100%. MBTI is more widely known and easier to explain/apply though.
kuma Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 My H is ESTP and I'm ISFJ. He's a Donald Trump personality type and I'm a Mother Teresa personality type.
Author threebyfate Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Here's a translator between MBTI and Enneagram. http://tap3x.net/ENSEMBLE/typeframe.html Zone 4 has the highest concentrations of MBTI types INFJ, INFP.
Crazy Magnet Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I so wanted to post a thread to find out how many INFPs were here since I suspected a relatively high number. I am an INFP, my current SO is also an INFP and we have both come out as 4's on the Enneagram. We are very much alike but we have the best communication I have ever had. I strongly believe it's because we both understand how the other person works. The only thing that sucks is often we both end up with our head in the clouds! lol Otherwise, this relationship is the closest thing to "perfect" I've ever experienced, and I've got quite a bit of experience at this point and so does he.
carhill Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Insight into marriage and behaviours help. How each individual chooses to address it, is up to them. Or you can stick your head in the sand and ostrich.So, since I looked up the myth of ostriches burying their heads in the sand and self-describe as a non-extant IIFP, what does that make me? Intolerable as a marital partner, according to stbx Different paths and thanks for the article....I'll take the test later...
Author threebyfate Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Since you already know you're an INFP, why not take the test as if you were your wife? This won't necessarily be accurate but might illustrate your differences even more clearly if you source the Jungian Cognitive functions, rather than just the 4 dichotomies of MBTI.
deux ex machina Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Here's a translator between MBTI and Enneagram. http://tap3x.net/ENSEMBLE/typeframe.html Zone 4 has the highest concentrations of MBTI types INFJ, INFP. I'm an INTP. According to the translator, that would fit into Zone 5. I never really looked at Enneagrams before - my psychologist had a book sitting on his desk about it. Pretty interesting!
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