Gattica Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 If you hear a guy telling his friends he is a ladies man, what would that make you think? OR When a guy tells a woman, unprompted that he isn't a ladies man?
Author Gattica Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 I actually meant to type it as LADIES' man...which is also acceptable. Thanks for your great response. You must really be bored.
Enchanted Girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 When a guy tells his friends he is a ladies' man, I usually start laughing internally and thinking about all the ways that men who thought they were so hot that I've met before thought they were ladies' men and they really didn't know what they were talking about at all. They are usually men's men who think they are a lot hotter than they are and are using that line to impress their friends because it doesn't work on girls. When a guy says he isn't a ladies' man, ironically, to me or another girl, it makes him seem more humble, although it honestly depends on what the rest of the things he is saying are. I might get the impression that it's false humility.
that girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Hearing someone is a ladies man makes me run away. Don't need drama or an STI. Hearing him tell his friends makes me think he is a liar (if you're a ladies man, you don't need to tell your friends, it is obvious) Having a guy say isn't a ladies man is generally a little odd. Like, why he is telling me this?
Enchanted Girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Yea, I think it's just better not to bring up the topic at all. It doesn't matter to a girl how many other girls you could or could not get (which is what being a ladies' man means), it matters to her how well you and she get along.
threebyfate Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 If you hear a guy telling his friends he is a ladies man, what would that make you think?I'd say he's full of poop and trying to impress his friends. When a guy tells a woman, unprompted that he isn't a ladies man?I'd wonder why he needed to say this.
Taramere Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 If you hear a guy telling his friends he is a ladies man, what would that make you think? Nothing in particular. I'd just feel mildly embarrassed for him OR When a guy tells a woman, unprompted that he isn't a ladies man? That he's fairly self absorbed and more preoccupied with the impression he's making than on getting to know me. I'd see it as a form of fishing. "How do I strike you on first impressions? Do you think I come across as a ladies' man?"
TouchedByViolet Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 A ladies man doesn't kiss and tell. There is no such thing as a self acclaimed ladies man.
Mr White Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I've NEVER heard a man describe himself as a "ladies' man". This is typically used by women do describe a man, and means that they understand that he's some form of douchebag, yet can't help it but be attracted to him.
Author Gattica Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 The reason I ask is the fella I had been seeing briefly stated to me, unprompted, that he isn’t a ladies’ man. I found that to be a bit odd. He and I have people we both know in common. I was told after we stopped dating, that he has proclaimed himself a ladies’ man in the past and shortly after things ended between us. I wasn’t sure of the definition, but if it is another term for a “player”, it explains a lot of his actions.
Pyro Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 A ladies man is a man who genuinely gets along with most other women he comes in contact with, whether its a co-worker or a random woman. He accomplishes this by being himself and not having to play games or pretend to be something he is not. Note: this is FAR from what is considered to be a player. A player has to BS in order to get women to like him. Like others have said a man is not a ladies man if he has to announce it.
threebyfate Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Gattica, when someone tells you one thing and tells everyone else something else, what does this tell you? It tells you that he's untrustworthy.
Shakz Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I always thought a ladies' man was a man loved by women for his savoir faire.
Author Gattica Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Gattica, when someone tells you one thing and tells everyone else something else, what does this tell you? It tells you that he's untrustworthy. I am not seeing anymore due to other reasons, but yes, I do get that. I still wanted to see what other people thought the term meant seeing as I have heard many different definitions and it was just helping to clarify some of his actions that I was confused by.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I consider myself a lady's man but not "the Lady's Man" like that dip-shi+ black dude, Tim Meadows, portrayed in his movie called The Lady's Man. I would never think to tell anyone that I am because it can mean several things. A young guy who lays a lot of pipe thinks he's a lady's man. A guy with charm who can finesse his way into the boudoirs of many a "lady" thinks he's a lady's man (even if he's 5'4"). Me? I just think I am because I've always attracted older women--way older. Also I have been told by experienced older men that as long as I keep my hair and form, women will just dig my height, my dimples and my manner. That doesn't mean I screw all over the place--it means I've been led by experience to believe that I am somewhat archetypal of the 6'-2" eyes so blue genetlemanly type that the ladies can trust not to let them down. I 'm pretty sure that's what I am. I wish youth were not wasted on the young because the younger wilder hotties seem not to value much accept the bad boy image of dip shi+s who will let them down.
Stung Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 A ladies man is a man who genuinely gets along with most other women he comes in contact with, whether its a co-worker or a random woman. He accomplishes this by being himself and not having to play games or pretend to be something he is not. Note: this is FAR from what is considered to be a player. A player has to BS in order to get women to like him. Like others have said a man is not a ladies man if he has to announce it. Agreed. A lot of people incorrectly use ladies' man and player interchangably; however the connotations are pretty different. A ladies' man is successful with women on multiple levels, platonic as well as sexual/romantic, because he genuinely enjoys and respects women and values their energy. A player manipulates women for sex and status. They might both get a lot of action, but one is a gentleman and the other is a cad. A man who calls himself a ladies' man is probably using the term wrong, and just trying to sound classy while he brags about getting laid. And if he's telling you one thing while telling his friends something else, his honor is suspect and he's not likely to be trustworthy.
Pyro Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Agreed. A lot of people incorrectly use ladies' man and player interchangably; however the connotations are pretty different. A ladies' man is successful with women on multiple levels, platonic as well as sexual/romantic, because he genuinely enjoys and respects women and values their energy. A player manipulates women for sex and status. They might both get a lot of action, but one is a gentleman and the other is a cad. A man who calls himself a ladies' man is probably using the term wrong, and just trying to sound classy while he brags about getting laid. And if he's telling you one thing while telling his friends something else, his honor is suspect and he's not likely to be trustworthy. I like how you worded it better.
You'reasian Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 (edited) If you hear a guy telling his friends he is a ladies man, what would that make you think? OR When a guy tells a woman, unprompted that he isn't a ladies man? Talk is cheap. I'd guess a ladies man is the kind of guy who can go on a date, have the original date turn him down half way through, but recover his loss when striking up a conversation and get a date that night with the next beautiful thing waiting for her car at the valet.... A ladies man will go to a dance club or a social event, get turned down for a dance the first few times, but once he gets the girl on the dance floor, those first few women will ask him to dance later (or avoid him altogether if the girl is hotter) A ladies man doesn't hate women. He understands them from their actions, what they dont say and their communication with other women. My guess? I don't know. I'm far from it...next? Edited July 13, 2010 by You'reasian
zengirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 If you hear a guy telling his friends he is a ladies man, what would that make you think? OR When a guy tells a woman, unprompted that he isn't a ladies man? He's really old and comes from the generation where they said the word "Ladies' man."
counterman Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 If the guys is telling his friends that he's a ladies' man, it is to stroke his ego. He's trying to raise his value through the perspective of his friends. If a guy tells a woman that he's a ladies' man, well, action needs to back that up.
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