doomage Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Hey everybody I haven't posted in awhile but I was just wondering what this meant. So lately I've been dating a girl for likea month and I thought everything was going good, we have sex alot, go out alot and stuff, and a week and a half ago i asked her out, but it was bad timing because she was alittled buzzed lol. I just did it spur of the moment and totally caught her off guard and she basically said no because it was too soon, but she's still brings it up time to time about being in a relationship. She's been hurt with her ex boyfriends and still talks about what they did to her, and on thursday of last week it looked like she was thinking about something, and i asekd what was it. She just said nothing but like thirty minutes later she said there was something. That maybe she isn't ready for a relationship just yet because she's been single for awhile, and she's in party mode, but the wierd thing is she still want's to date me, but i feel like something has changed. She also said that i was clingy, and that i reminded her of her ex who was clingy. In my defense i said that i don't restrict her from anything and that I don't bombard her with phone calls, but she said taht i was too affectionette i guess but that she doesn't want me to stop being affectionette because i really wanted to after she told me that. so i'm confused Before she would respond to my text messages super quick and now it takes hours, so i kind of feel like i've become predictable. Is it bs about her not being ready to be in a relationship because of school and what not, or she's just not ready to be in one with me? On Sunday I didn't hear from her pretty much the whole day until I texted her and even then she was very cold sounding, and short answered. I said goodnight and she didn't even say it back. Usually she texts me good morning in the morning when she wakes up and she didn't do that, and I haven't heard from her the whole day and i don't want to text her cuz then ill be desperate. so i dont know what the hell to do. P.S. yesterday we were hanging out with her friends and one of her friends was with a guy at a party and i asked if that was her bf and she said it's complicated, because he's too good. So i asked what she meant and she said that he's too predictable, and she asked my girl "don't you get that feeling sometimes" and i was like oh crap and my girl was like "ya" and i felt like she was talking about me, and my girl was like "oh no your confusing me" because i guess it's reinforcing in her mind that she shoulnd't be with me or something.
Green Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Just don't worry about it. Go date other girls if she is going to be like this.
Author doomage Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 It's so frustrating though, in the past with other girls I'd call them out on it straight out, but I'm trying not to be like that, because it'd make me look desperate and clingy. I did ask her on sat though if everything was cool wtih me and her and she said ya that she was just busy having fun with her friends. I don't know why she is acting like this though, it's pissing me off. It's hard to let her come to me but, i gotta wait it out.
Green Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Don't worry about looking desperate or clingy. Seriusly though you sound a little desperate. It doesn't matter if this girl leaves you. You still barely know her. If she leaves you just for wanting her then SO WHAT. Stop caring so much and just enjoy. Maybe if you look at the situation with out so much worry you will see that maybe you want to leave her. She might not be the kind of person you need in your life.
that girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 So lately I've been dating a girl for likea month and I thought everything was going good, we have sex alot, go out alot and stuff, and a week and a half ago i asked her out, but it was bad timing because she was alittled buzzed lol. I just did it spur of the moment and totally caught her off guard and she basically said no because it was too soon, but she's still brings it up time to time about being in a relationship. This is confusing. Are you dating her or is she your FWB? Did you ask her on a date or ask her to be exclusive? On Sunday I didn't hear from her pretty much the whole day until I texted her and even then she was very cold sounding, and short answered. I said goodnight and she didn't even say it back. Usually she texts me good morning in the morning when she wakes up and she didn't do that, and I haven't heard from her the whole day and i don't want to text her cuz then ill be desperate. so i dont know what the hell to do. Texting her Monday after she didn't text goodnight on Sunday isn't desperate. Someone who wasn't counting texts wouldn't even think about it. Desperate is texting her multiple times in one day when she hasn't responded. It sounds like she probably just isn't that into you.
Author doomage Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 We are dating but we're not in a relationship yet, i just texted her right now, and i haven't gotten anything, so i dont know what's the deal, we had a heart to heart last week when she laid it on me that she probably isn't to be in a relationshp but still wan'ts to date me, but now i feel like that is her way to still string me along, till she finds something better. If i don't hear from her I'm just gonna delete her number. Sucks but she isn't respecting me by ignoring me. I don't feel like were dating either, idk what the hell this is.
that girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 What does in a relationship mean? Are you exclusive? If she's not willing to be sexually exclusive, you should end things. It isn't good for you mentally or physically. Or does in a relationship mean "this is my boyfriend who I see 4 days a week"? A month really isn't that long and if she just got out of something she may need it to be slow. If i don't hear from her I'm just gonna delete her number. Sucks but she isn't respecting me by ignoring me. I don't feel like were dating either, idk what the hell this is. Don't do this, it is like having a hissy fit. You only look bad. Going 24 hours between texts is not disrespect. You need to take a deep breath and try not to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I'm sure you've forgotten to respond to a text message or two in your life.
Author doomage Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Thatgirl: Well she told me that when she dates she only dates one person at a time especially if she is having sex or what not. So i kind of trust her when it comes to me believing im the only dude in her life that she's banging or whatever, but the majority of her friends are guys, well her bestfriend is gay, but there is also a guy she banged before that is her "friend" and she even banged his brother before she banged him, and their all gonna hang out tomorrow, gay friend included and other friends so im not taht comfortable with that but what can i do? Shes been damaged by her past boyfriends though, like before she used to initiate the texting with her ex, and be really caring and sweet, but then he dumped her and she changed all that and it ****in sucks since i like a girl to be like that. I know i might be making a big deal but for a girl who used to text me everyday and respond to my text messages i cant help but feel that she doesnt like me anymore. I don't wanna jump the gun and accuse her of ignoring me and stuff, so ill just play it cool and do my own thing and if she gets back to me good, but since she did this i guess ill do it to her also. I'm just sick of girls hiding their feelings to not seem desperate **** just come out with it already damnit!!!!
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