PlumPudding Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 NEVER assume that just because people are in relationships, they're truly happy with it. True that. Which is why I have doubts as to whether I'll really get married . . . because I won't tolerate not being truly happy with a relationship, haha.
paleblue Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Been a long time since I've been head over heels for any woman. There are just so many head-cases out here in California that I've run into (I'm sure not all are that way, just the ones *I* meet). At this point, I am not even looking anymore. I am simply enjoying what God has given me and not going to worry about relationships. Besides, at 41 I'm pretty much "out to pasture" - haha There's a lotta head cases out here in new york too
D-Lish Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 The last time I met someone that blew me away was 2 years ago. Before that, was two years before as well. I think the older you get, the less frequent those butterflies occur. I am at that point now where I just cannot imagine anyone having an impact. I just don't see it happening.
Woggle Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Twice. The first time I married her and it was a complete disaster. I wonder sometimes what the hell I ever saw in her. She was very attractive before she ruined her looks but she was always screwed up even if she hadn't gone off the rails at that point. The second time I married her and we are still going great and very happy together. I thought women like her were extinct but she proved me wrong.
zengirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I'm 25. First time - in HS. Honestly, we would be married if he hadn't been killed by a drunk driver when I was 19. (Zengirl says: Don't drink and drive.) After that, not for a long time, but it was probably more me than anything else, considering the above. The next time was after college, though I had a college boyfriend for the last year and a half. He was mostly filler. As was I to him. We are still good friends. Second time: I was 22. We dated for a year. It didn't work out. He's married now, and we still keep in touch. Third time: I was 24. But I was leaving the country (planned already by the time we realized we wanted to date) three months later, so c'est la vie. Fourth and fifth time: I was 25 (I'm about to be 26) and living abroad. I'm American. One was British and one was Korean. Ultimately, Britboy and I broke up because he was leaving Korea due to the company he worked for closing, and we hadn't been in it long enough (only 3 months) to really do much more than keep in touch. We still write. Koreanboy and I broke up just recently because he doesn't want to live in America and leave his family, and I can't see myself in Korea forever. He was starting to talk about getting married (We'd only been dating 4 months, but Koreans don't date a long time beforehand; they get married pretty fast). If circumstances were different, all of these people would've made lovely partners, except maybe #2. He and I were a bit unhealthy together. He's still a great friends and a great guy (actually married another friend of mine), but it was one of those things where we both brought out insecurities in each other. He really helped me to realize/work through a lot of my own stuff, though, and I think I did the same for him.
Nikki Sahagin Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I would say....3. When I was younger me and my family went to the same holiday destination every year. There was a guy there a couple of years older who I met 2 years out there and he was physically STUNNING, the most gorgeous man i'd ever seen in real life; tall, tanned, dark hair, dark eyes, he used to flip his hair out of his eyes, had a great smile, affectionate, charming, lovely...just amazing! He was like a god. He was my friend crush that I never acted on because I was young and just enjoying the crush really. I remember when he went home I couldn't eat for days, my mum said I was love sick. That was the first timel Second time with my ex - again amazingly powerful feeling, its the feeling of a connection, there's a buzz and electricity. Third time, a guy from work - felt chemistry with him, but he never acted on it so I assumed he wasn't interested and let it go. I don't get this feeling easily for people yet so many others seem to be able to chop and change gf's, bf's and sexual partners like that. I go with my feelings for a person rather than my impulses.
GoodOnPaper Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 As in you guys have great chemistry, very physically attracted, and your thinking this person is potential spouse material? If you have to count all three qualities, then zero. My single life was so bad that I developed a kneejerk reaction that a woman was automatically out of my league if I felt intense physical attraction. Counting just chemistry and spouse potential, then maybe one.
SilentVoice Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I have met many I have liked the idea of. Never someone I truly liked. Sad isn't it? Someday he will come ... :-)
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