Bogo123 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 As in you guys have great chemistry, very physically attracted, and your thinking this person is potential spouse material? I kinda lost this one girl that I felt this way about. We dated for 3 months and then it died out of the blue. I just don't meet girls that I feel that way about very often so im kinda bummed, wondering when and if it will happen again. I just wanted to know how it is for everyone else?
Gattica Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I have had that experience one time. I do hope it happens again, but don't expect it to.
Pfiend101 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Yeah I did. Then she lied to me and I couldn't trust her anymore. Proving to me once again that game playing gets you further in dating then being honest and true to yourself.
that girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Yeah I did. Then she lied to me and I couldn't trust her anymore. Proving to me once again that game playing gets you further in dating then being honest and true to yourself. Because if you lied to her then she wouldn't have lied to you? Huh? For the OP, I think it is rare to meet someone you feel that way about right off the bat but occassionally it can grow.
USMCHokie Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Once. Met her during my first year of college but we never really talked. She ended up transfering to another school. Seven years later, we randomly reconnected on Facebook...and it was pretty awesome while it lasted...
Enchanted Girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Yeah I did. Then she lied to me and I couldn't trust her anymore. Proving to me once again that game playing gets you further in dating then being honest and true to yourself. What you should try to learn from that instead is how to be a better judge of a woman's character before you date her. Don't let hormones get in the way. I am by no means mocking you when I say this. I actually read an article about how you should listen to your friends that are the same gender as the person you like about what they think of that person's character (as long as those friends aren't attracted to you) because girl's notice fake game playing girls and guy's know which guy is full of it and which one is genuine usually because they aren't blinded by hormones into falling for their games. It's something I'd try to adopt if I were single again because although I haven't dated a guy like this before, I have chased after a few in my life and made a fool of myself doing so. I just don't want you to take this as a life lesson that you should play games in your future relationships. I don't think we need more of that in the dating world. And I disagree with you. The people who play games in relationships usually meet and date more people, but their relationships tend to be more shallow.
Eeyore79 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 It's happened to me three times. After the first time, I waited 11 years for it to happen again, then after that I waited another 2 years. Maybe my people picker had improved somewhat, and that's why there was less of a gap between the second and third times.
kalikula Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Every time I've met someone I've realized the person was not actually marriage material after awhile... (At first not ruling it out as a possibility). So I guess I still haven't met that person- I suspect there are at least a few out there that I will eventually meet though.
Serenitynow Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Its only been once for me so far. I know I will never find a connection like we had again Not saying I wont fall in love again, but I'm saying she was so unique, just so far removed from every other girl I've ever met.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Physical attractions always ends up being just eye candy for me, ultimately I would love to settle for chemistry. It just doesn't happen all the time because even when I feel like i meet someone who fits that ideal, they end up being a disappointment. It's like having a great conversation to begin with, and then falling into silence because we'd run out of topics to talk about.
monkey00 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I never really thought about wifey material when I was younger, it never really occurred to me. But the last person I really really liked and was going out with was about 4 years ago. It turned out she truly was wifey material...but for someone else as she's married now. Thinking back about it now, I never really understood what made me so attracted to her. Women I've dated after that were just fun, but none were really quality material or I was especially attracted to.
CaliGuy Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Been a long time since I've been head over heels for any woman. There are just so many head-cases out here in California that I've run into (I'm sure not all are that way, just the ones *I* meet). At this point, I am not even looking anymore. I am simply enjoying what God has given me and not going to worry about relationships. Besides, at 41 I'm pretty much "out to pasture" - haha
counterman Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Have only met one I was crazy about. The others were so-so. There's some definite incline towards some but it doesn't happen often.
Eve Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 As in you guys have great chemistry, very physically attracted, and your thinking this person is potential spouse material? I kinda lost this one girl that I felt this way about. We dated for 3 months and then it died out of the blue. I just don't meet girls that I feel that way about very often so im kinda bummed, wondering when and if it will happen again. I just wanted to know how it is for everyone else? I have only had one relationship that has maintained my interest beyond the honeymoon period and I married him. Previous to Hubby, I found (within a short space of time) that the men I came across did not have hearts that were actually open enough to share life with on a variety of different levels. Many were stuck in the 'sex level' or 'please me, please me, PLEASE ME level'. H'mmm... not much common sense. Still I would say that I was completely committed to the relationships and did love them... in a way. They were just boring and easily forgettable experiences is all... we just were not meant to be and I did not miss them one bit when the relationship ended. I have come across a few men who I would say have it ALL there, since being married. But I am taken now so, well, I can't go there really. So, other options exist but I would not risk what I have to try it out. Who has the time anyway? Overall, I would say I have met four potential marriage partners but would be devastated if anything happened between Hubby and I to end our marriage... which feels uncomfortable and a bit scary to admit. Take care, Eve xx
Author Bogo123 Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Wow so it doesn't seem like it happens very often. Then how are all these people getting married??? Im 33 and the clock is ticking. I feel so much pressure to finally settle down but its just not happening. If I don't have a wife by 40, im gonna order one
Pfiend101 Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I was in a bad mood when I made that post. You're right playing games is not the answer unless your looking for random hook ups or someone who isn't worth your time.
Brady_to_Moss Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I am 21 years old. Have never met a girl that i actually liked liked...maybe i will one day but dont plan on it.
skydiveaddict Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 As in you guys have great chemistry, very physically attracted, and your thinking this person is potential spouse material? I kinda lost this one girl that I felt this way about. We dated for 3 months and then it died out of the blue. I just don't meet girls that I feel that way about very often so im kinda bummed, wondering when and if it will happen again. I just wanted to know how it is for everyone else? It happened to me once. It didnt work, I doubt I will ever find it again
alphamale Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 I just wanted to know how it is for everyone else? every 2 to 3 years
PlumPudding Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Just once . . . and I dated him, only to have him break up with me because he's scared I won't be able to make his "dream life" come true . . . :/ Unfortunately, I really don't find many people I like. Even like enough to START dating . . . I don't find a lot of people attractive (though those I do, I really, really find attractive, haha) and personalities, even less common. Augh! Really makes me frightened that I'll end up alone or . . . way worse: with someone I don't really love.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Once so far. It didn't work out because of his crazy, interfering family, and that broke my heart. I never felt worse emotional pain than I did when we broke up. But we are now very good friends -- in fact, he's one of my closest friends and has been there for me more than anyone in my life, even my own parents and family. We live in different states but keep in close touch and just started a new business venture together. I have fantasized about a second chance. We even discussed this, and he admitted that of course he has thought about it, too. But his crazy family isn't going anywhere, and they come first for him. So I will continue to appreciate the blessing of him as a great friend.
Gallaxia Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Few & far between. The last time was just a year ago and hasn't totally resolved yet... I have dated here & there but nothing really catching my attention. Before that, like 8 years ago.
Author Bogo123 Posted July 14, 2010 Author Posted July 14, 2010 Maybe you can up your chances by meeting as many people as humanly possible? Go out every night, join classes, do speed dating, bars on weekends. I think being proactive is the best approach, although I get discouraged sometimes or lose motivation.
Serenitynow Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Wow so it doesn't seem like it happens very often. Then how are all these people getting married??? Just because people get married or even dating each other for that fact, doesn't mean they are "the one" for each other. There are thousands and thousands of people that settle. Some do it for kids, some do it from family pressure, some are afraid they'll never find anyone else, many do it for $$$$, the reasons can go on forever. NEVER assume that just because people are in relationships, they're truly happy with it.
Gallaxia Posted July 14, 2010 Posted July 14, 2010 Just because people get married or even dating each other for that fact, doesn't mean they are "the one" for each other. There are thousands and thousands of people that settle. Some do it for kids, some do it from family pressure, some are afraid they'll never find anyone else, many do it for $$$$, the reasons can go on forever. NEVER assume that just because people are in relationships, they're truly happy with it. There are many good actors.
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