ellioops Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 To me marriage is a lot more then a piece of paper its the joining of two people who love eachother, who respect each other, trust eachother and are committed to each other and on the same page. it's spending the rest of your life with the one you love and would do anything for. That said if I am wrong let me know! My partner and I met 5 years ago and have been together since, we've had a lot of ups and downs and seperated for a white a few times but have always ended back together. I wanted to marry him and was just about to give u when he finally proposed this year valentines day. we're not rich we struggle but could afford a wedding. A nice one too and i had one all planned for april next year which is what he decided. then out of the blue on saturday he's not happy getting married and thinks we should wait 6 -12 months to be in a better position financially. he's in debt we're paying it off and have years of it to go so we wont be any better of in 6 to 12 months time and will still have the same wedding same costs ect. dont understand why he wants to postpone when everything was fine one minute then the next not. i have given up everythin for him made sacrifices and lied to protect him, i have never asked for anything but this from him, he's never sacrificed for me, lied for me or given anything up for me. should i postpone the wedding? is he just not interested in us? like i said he knew how excited i was and how id planned and booked everything he was okay with it and what i had done and detAILS AND ALL I CHECKED EVERYTHING WITH HIM ASKED HIS OPINION ALL THE TIME I dont understand why in one day he's not okay with it. i gave him the ring back and said that he betrayed me by talking to my family behind my back and that he needs to be honest with me and talk to me not them. they said they didn;t say to end it or postpone the wedding it all him. what do i do?
choosinghappiness Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 It sounds to me like you need to take a good look at your relationship. Maybe you guys aren't really the happy couple you seem to think you are. It sounds to me like he has cold feet, so you both need to explore together why that is. You are right that marriage is not something to enter into lightly. If you don't address your issues now it will just end in divorce. If these things are issues now, what do you think it will be like in 10 years? Talk to your partner and take a good look at the relationship, and make sure that you are not just wanted to get married for the sake of bieng married. Good luck!
blossom0123 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 DON'T marry someone who is not sure if he wants to get married - it will just backfire down the road. It's challenging enough when you have two people who really want to get married :-/
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