brainygirl Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I'm currently seeing someone and I should break up with him. We are both in our late 20s. He's working on a GED, I am on my second master's degree. He drinks a lot, I grew up with alcoholic parents and avoid alcohol because sometime addiction is genetic. I just moved two hours away and he's considering a move in the opposite direction to be closer to his kid. I have three kids and don't want anymore, ever, he wants at least another child. I could go on. But here's where I am having trouble. He's fun to be around. He's smart and funny. I feel like I can relax and be myself around him in a way I can't with anyone else. We've been taking things very slowly and haven't even talked about exclusivity or anything like that yet. But after spending a weekend camping with him and hanging out, and knowing that he's not a good match for me, I still can't wait to either hear from him and have to keep myself from texting him just so I can be talking to him. Stupid, huh? So, how do I cut ties with him without ripping myself apart?
Theideaofme Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 What's more important to you, preserving your feelings or his?
sugarmomma Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 You knew all of this when you met him or shortly afterward. Did you think that you wouldn't develop feelings for him? I say just stay in reality and you should be okay. He doesn't sound really ambitious and when the fun wears off, real life sets in. So that should keep you out of denial about certain parts of his character that don't mix with yours. Have fun. Set a deadline.
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