matildack Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ugh. For those of you that have been following my previous threads, I broke NC. I was on vacation this weekend and texted him 2 messages. One was a friendly message asking how he was doing and that I was on vacation. A minute later, I sent another text message telling him something along the lines of: "just wanted to let you know that I'm not mad at you anymore (he left me for another girl) and I understand and accept the breakup. I wish you the best with ______." I felt better after sending it, as I let my anger go (but I truly deep down still do not accept it). Well, no response (even though he said if I needed anything or wanted to talk, I could). So, I'm back to square one again. :/ It doesn't help that he keeps looking at one of my social networking profiles. For some reason, he won't delete me off of it. I probably should get rid of him on there, but it's so hard Sigh. What should I do now?
JLB Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Don't feel bad girl, I broke NC last night after seeing a picture of my ex with his new woman. I went ballistic on him because we are supposed to only be on a 3 mos break trying to figure out if we want to be together or not. I already know that I do want to be with him, but now he is torn between two women. After he was having his cake and eating it too, by seeing his new woman and then calling, texting and coming to spend the night at my house, I put my foot down and said NC for at least 3 mos. Get your SH$# together and figure out what it is that you want. so I was doing fine with going 8 days until I saw the picture, and I thought to myself...here I am at home everynight...thinking about him and what his decision might eventually be...and here he is out with her taking pictures for facebook and having a grand ole time. So I called him and said "nevermind, let's just call it over and done with, because you don't look like you are trying to figure out anything other than when you can do your woman again"..... I also sent her a text and blew his whole relationship out of the water...because he had been lying to her and telling her that he wasn't still seeing me. Now she is mad at him....I knew it would backfire on me, but did it anyway....I just called him a little bit ago to tell him that I probably shouldn't have done that...but she needed to know the truth...he was pretty broken up over her being mad at him, and said that he was confused about both of us...and after talking to him for 2 hours on the phone...he said he would "try to let me go" WHATEVER!!!!
USMCHokie Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 What should I do now? 1. Stop texting him. 2. Block him from your social networking sites. 3. Stop texting him. Every time you break NC, you're starting the vicious cycle over again. It's not his job to remove himself from your social network. You need to be proactive and want to move on. From your post, it seems you haven't quite let go and aren't ready to completely cut him from your life...and that's understandable...it took me a really long time to accept my breakup and make take necessary steps to cut my ex from my life, as she had already cut me from hers. It just takes time, but it does get better...
Author matildack Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 1. Stop texting him. 2. Block him from your social networking sites. 3. Stop texting him. Every time you break NC, you're starting the vicious cycle over again. It's not his job to remove himself from your social network. You need to be proactive and want to move on. From your post, it seems you haven't quite let go and aren't ready to completely cut him from your life...and that's understandable...it took me a really long time to accept my breakup and make take necessary steps to cut my ex from my life, as she had already cut me from hers. It just takes time, but it does get better... I'm trying to move on, but it's just so difficult. I have deleted his phone number from my cell phone, so that way I won't contact him again. As for the site, I can't bring myself to do it. Your right, at this point I'm not really ready to let go-- but only because he gave me some hope by saying "maybe someday we can work this out". I don't think he's with her right now. Maybe he doesn't know what he wants. Regardless, I am left here not knowing what he thinks, feels etc.. and it just kills me. I keep thinking "what if..". I have been through numerous break-ups before, and they never have hit me as hard as this one did. I wasn't even with him for that long!
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