tincanman99 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ok in the last 1.5 years I dropped 40lbs and got in great shape. This was done via a woman trainer is younger than me by quite a bit (like 14 years). In that time we have become super friendly and I am ok with that. I have always been very careful with her not to hit on her or anything like that. Y For multiple reasons including making her uncomfortable, I am older (dirty old man) and paying for her time. I know a ton about her personal life including being friends with her boyfriend. I am affectionate with her but its purely platonic. In the last few months she has become even friendlier than before. Much friendlier. She is always asking if I am dating anyone and what did I do over the weekend, blah, blah. Last weekend I was at the beach with her and her boyfriend and the next thing you know she was dusting sand off my back and arms and than picking an eyelash from my face. Although she will touch me while we are training she never touches me like this. Later we were at the bar on the beach and she said what would all the people at the gym say about seeing us together at the beach? I just laughed and said that I am the proverbial dirty old man . She than asked what are people think about me being at the bar with a hot young thing and I just laughed told her they are jealous. I dont know what to think about it. I am confused about it. She slipped once and said if I was younger she would be all over me. I thought she was kidding and ignored it. Here is the reality though and I wont lie - I am attracted to her both physically and mentally. She has a great disposition and we have a great relationship . As I said I am careful not to open my mouth because I am afraid if I do anything I will screw this up. Than no more trainer. I am just looking for insight what she might be thinking.
brokendream Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Do you really want to pursue a woman who would hit on you when her boyfriend is there? She is definitely crossing the line into flirting territory…maybe to see how you respond. It’s hard to tell without knowing if she’s a flirt in general and if that's just part of her personality.
Author tincanman99 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 I am not pursuing anything. I just want to understand what she is thinking. I didnt react when she did it. I didnt flinch or pull away. I just ignored it as her boyfriend did. Men are dense, remember that .
brokendream Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 If it was done right in front of her boyfriend...like in earshot of him then I don't think she meant anything by it. She probably just really likes you as a friend.
robdrm32 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 She may like the attention you give her, even though you don't hit on her, she probably realizes you are attracted to her so she wants more of your attention as an ego booster. And as the above poster said, if she is putting her hands on you in front of her boyfriend then that should clue you in to the kind of personality she has I don't really find that appropriate in any situation. You'll never really know what shes thinking unless you ask her.
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