luzjane Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 We met 5 months ago and I knew he was separated, we had cassual sex in my house or hotels almost every week or every two weeks, he lives in another city, I had to take the pill once as he did come inside me, and everytime since this happened he always try to come inside me! I stopped seeing him a month and a half ago, and suddenly he sent me an email telling me that he has been thinking seriously about me and "US" he invited me for the first time to see his house last week and then we had sex again and even if i asked him not to come inside me he did again! I reacted very bad and he noticed I wasn't happy about it, he suggested then the 36 hour pill, and i explained him I was very sick the first time I took it and that I wasn't happy about taking it again! he did apologize but i knew he did in purpose! I didn't take the pill and I have to wait three weeks until I will know if I am pregnant! I am terrible confuse as i don't know why if he is separated everytime we have seen eachother in the last two months he have tried to come inside me, time ago he have asked me few times if I want to have children! can somebody help me to understand better what to do?
Serenitynow Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 You keep having sex with him and letting him use you . . Why do you expect him to treat you with repsect ? Some guys just use women as baby ovens. They dont care about the women at all. They just like to have kids. .
gamma1 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 We met 5 months ago and I knew he was separated, we had cassual sex in my house or hotels almost every week or every two weeks, he lives in another city, I had to take the pill once as he did come inside me, and everytime since this happened he always try to come inside me! I stopped seeing him a month and a half ago, and suddenly he sent me an email telling me that he has been thinking seriously about me and "US" he invited me for the first time to see his house last week and then we had sex again and even if i asked him not to come inside me he did again! I reacted very bad and he noticed I wasn't happy about it, he suggested then the 36 hour pill, and i explained him I was very sick the first time I took it and that I wasn't happy about taking it again! he did apologize but i knew he did in purpose! I didn't take the pill and I have to wait three weeks until I will know if I am pregnant! I am terrible confuse as i don't know why if he is separated everytime we have seen eachother in the last two months he have tried to come inside me, time ago he have asked me few times if I want to have children! can somebody help me to understand better what to do? Have you learned something from this? Are you going to continue to see him or other guys like this which are obvious red flags for so many reasons? You will have to make some tough decisions if you are pregnant and only you, with the help of loved ones, can make those decisions. There are millions of good men out there. You need to make an effort to choose one of them next time.
Author luzjane Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Thank you Serenity, In fact I find him very selfish but I have fallen in love and my only hope was the fact that he is a solicitor specialized in Children protection! but as you said there are men that doesn't care about women at all.....
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 It doesn't sound like he wants children and asked you if you did to see where you stood on the matter. It sounds like he is simply selfish, likes how it feels to come inside, and intends to let you handle any pregnancies that happen (morning after pill, abortion, etc.) I don't know that I would stay with someone that selfish. I can imagine that if you get pregnant, it will get ugly quick and he will find a way to blame you for not taking a morning after pill.
spookie Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I don't get it. Why aren't you on regular birth control, or using condoms? The pull-out method is not very effective...
brainygirl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I don't get it. Why aren't you on regular birth control, or using condoms? The pull-out method is not very effective... I agree, pull-out is something ignorant teenagers do. Go to planned parenthood and get a pill or a patch or an iud. As, just food for thought, when a man uses a woman sexually without her permission and against her expressed consent, its called rape. He's an *******. Get him out of your life, because, in love or out, he's not treating you well at all.
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