Curious-One Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I dont know if its only me but i suck at taking hints. I will be talking to a girl and she will give me a hint and i will not realize it till later. I might also notice the hint than question my self ... was that a hint or was it just something she usually does?? I suck
that girl Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 On one level, I think hints are kind of dumb. There is no reason guys should carry the whole asking out burden. But in reality, I'm not sure they are such a terrible thing. Most guys, if they are interested will respond to the hints in some way. They'll flirt with her at those group events, they'll see the opening she's given him with the suggestion of a movie she'd like to see and ask her out. They'll notice at least some of the hints because they're playing attention to the girl they are interested in. I think why they drive guys nuts is that if they'd known she was interested, maybe they would have been interested too. But I'm not sure how often that happens. It is one thing if it is a woman he will only meet once, he might be too nervous to ask for her number, but someone he sees regularly? I'm not so sure many guys are overlooking a woman they would date if they knew they had a shot.
bunnixkisses Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I have NEVER thought about this wow. Makes me think. I guess i do drop hints..like flirty little hints. But I would never ask a guy out! I do get frustrated when he doesn't get it...but at that point I'm just like..Hey dude...when you going to ask me out?
Gallaxia Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I dont know if its only me but i suck at taking hints. I will be talking to a girl and she will give me a hint and i will not realize it till later. I might also notice the hint than question my self ... was that a hint or was it just something she usually does?? I suck I'm the same sometimes that's why I like my guys a little on the aggressive side. It helps me in trying to picking up things.
counterman Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Hints are so unreliable and can be misleading, missed or misunderstood. Some of my girl friends have been dropping hints left, right and centre for the guys they like for YEARS and the guys still don't get it. Then, it fades and they realise the guys did like them. Okay, maybe the guys should have asked. Knowing me, if I were interested in her, I would ask her out, no problems. However, if, say, the girl is a friend of mine then I am not going to bite at any hints she drops. If she likes me, she says it upfront.
Author Serenitynow Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Women I know that are married, in a relationship, or single, all treat me the same way. They are all nice, cordial, and sometimes flirty. There is no way to determine if someone is being nice, or trying to get you to bite. HOW a guy interprets her actions is what makes the difference. Maybe everyone is always flirting with me, and I just blanket it as normal interaction lol
Engadget Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I pride myself as a man being better than most on picking up hints. I am good at reading body language and facial expressions and women, like men do many subconscious little things that give it away. With women the eyes and hands are the keys. If they toss their hair or expose their neck its generally a good, sometimes nervous sign. These are things you can read online but eye contact tends to be the biggest one. You just have to know how to read what they're saying in their eyes.
phineas Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 ok here is a hint I just picked up on when talking to my woman friend. she said "so, were getting take out & going to the drive in, if your kids don't come then it's just the two of us & that's like a date isn't it? dinner & a movie?" i'm almost definitely sure that's hint she wants to go out with me. so, I told her i'm getting a baby sitter & we are going on our first date. actually my first date since the separation (I signed d-papers 3 weeks ago) I asked her to be gentle. LOL!
gamma1 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Most guys, if they are interested will respond to the hints in some way. They'll flirt with her at those group events, they'll see the opening she's given him with the suggestion of a movie she'd like to see and ask her out. They'll notice at least some of the hints because they're playing attention to the girl they are interested in. I think why they drive guys nuts is that if they'd known she was interested, maybe they would have been interested too. But I'm not sure how often that happens. It is one thing if it is a woman he will only meet once, he might be too nervous to ask for her number, but someone he sees regularly? I'm not so sure many guys are overlooking a woman they would date if they knew they had a shot. Most guys will never pick up on the hints. Guys do not have a woman's intuition. Time after time a woman drops hints on a guy she is interested in and all of her female friends notice, but the guy does not notice. What drives guys nuts is women who give hints that they don't understand. If a woman is going to give hints, make them so a guy can understand them.
gamma1 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 I pride myself as a man being better than most on picking up hints. I am good at reading body language and facial expressions and women, like men do many subconscious little things that give it away. With women the eyes and hands are the keys. If they toss their hair or expose their neck its generally a good, sometimes nervous sign. These are things you can read online but eye contact tends to be the biggest one. You just have to know how to read what they're saying in their eyes. Most guys can't read a woman's eyes or hands. If you can read them, you certainly are better than most guys at being able to read hints.
Engadget Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Most guys can't read a woman's eyes or hands. If you can read them, you certainly are better than most guys at being able to read hints. It's only because I'm really sensitive to how other people are feeling, like their mood is very obvious to me. It's annoyed ex-girlfriends because I can tell when something's not right when they're trying to hide it, and I always tell them I'm going to know, but they try to lie anyway.
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