badazz Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ok heres the sitiation. Im just gonna throw it out there. My girlfriend is very beautiful and i tell her all the time but she never believes me but anyway... The thing is that my girlfrin has A LOT of guys that like her and everytime i turn around another guy is textin her or telling her she is pretty and always trying to get with her. Now she tells me everyday she loves me and im the best thing that has ever happened to her. She says im the sweetest guy and there is no one else like me. I really love her but idk i guess maybe im kinda jealous but when im on the phone she tells me that another guy sent her a message saying they really like her and that she should be with them and im just thinkin is she tryin to get me jealous to see how i react but im confused. Am i just being stupid? I mean im usually very laid back but now im stressed bc i have this very beautiful gf that all these guys are chasing after. Tell me if im just bein a idiot cuz i think i am but idk. I know its not her fault that shes so pretty but I mean how would you feel if your loved one had ppl textin them and trying to get with them. Plus she is flirting back and she doesnt even try to tell them to leave her alone. Tell me what to think bc im confused as hell
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ok heres the sitiation. Im just gonna throw it out there. My girlfriend is very beautiful and i tell her all the time but she never believes me but anyway... The thing is that my girlfrin has A LOT of guys that like her and everytime i turn around another guy is textin her or telling her she is pretty and always trying to get with her. Now she tells me everyday she loves me and im the best thing that has ever happened to her. She says im the sweetest guy and there is no one else like me. I really love her but idk i guess maybe im kinda jealous but when im on the phone she tells me that another guy sent her a message saying they really like her and that she should be with them and im just thinkin is she tryin to get me jealous to see how i react but im confused. Am i just being stupid? I mean im usually very laid back but now im stressed bc i have this very beautiful gf that all these guys are chasing after. Tell me if im just bein a idiot cuz i think i am but idk. I know its not her fault that shes so pretty but I mean how would you feel if your loved one had ppl textin them and trying to get with them. Plus she is flirting back and she doesnt even try to tell them to leave her alone. Tell me what to think bc im confused as hell Congrats you caut that "hot" gf all the guys drool over isent it great? no offence meant but you see I have a theory about girls like this it goes a little something like this... She knows she hot don't let her fool you she IS playing mind games with you deliberately why? well because she knows you will tolerate it and maybe shes drawn to drama and loving the attention at the same time double whammy Thats my best guess on a situation like this now enjoy your prize!
Dexter Morgan Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ok heres the sitiation. Im just gonna throw it out there. My girlfriend is very beautiful and i tell her all the time but she never believes me but anyway... The thing is that my girlfrin has A LOT of guys that like her and everytime i turn around another guy is textin her or telling her she is pretty and always trying to get with her. well just how are these guys getting her number? hmmm? and my gut says she is sending out signals to other guys, along with her number.
brokendream Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 well just how are these guys getting her number? hmmm? and my gut says she is sending out signals to other guys, along with her number. My feelings exactly! Why is she even entertaining these guys in the first place? She loves the attention she's getting and she just has to make sure that you know about it too. Just so you know how lucky you are to have her.
Arasae Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I'm in a relationship sort of like this, actually. It sounds to me like you don't trust your girlfriend--does she give you a reason to, or not? Guys hit on me quite a bit--I don't give out my number, I tell people I have a boyfriend, and yet guys from when I was single continue to contact me, knowing these things. I try not to flirt back, but at the same time, try to be cordial. The problem is, unless I'm burning bridges and telling guys to essential F*** off, they think there is still a chance. There's not too much I can do, since many of them work with me. Try to distinguish the difference between if your girlfriend is just being cordial, or if she's sending sexy texts back. It could be that, could be something else depending on what she's sending.
Bryanp Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 How would she feel if the roles were reversed and women were contacting and texting you all the time? She sounds immature and a game player.
norajane Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 well just how are these guys getting her number? hmmm? and my gut says she is sending out signals to other guys, along with her number. EXACTLY. These guys wouldn't be able to text her unless she gave them her number. AND: Plus she is flirting back and she doesnt even try to tell them to leave her alone. This is a huge red flag. She doesn't respect you, and she is so needy for attention and validation that she is willing to make you uncomfortable so she can get her ego-strokes. I'd point these two things out to her. If she really believes this: Now she tells me everyday she loves me and im the best thing that has ever happened to her. then she will stop giving her number to guys and she would not encourage them by flirting. If she won't do that for you, then she's lying about loving you. In which case, you are better off without her because it's only a matter of time before you get dumped or cheated on.
stace79 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Ok heres the sitiation. Im just gonna throw it out there. My girlfriend is very beautiful and i tell her all the time but she never believes me but anyway... The thing is that my girlfrin has A LOT of guys that like her and everytime i turn around another guy is textin her or telling her she is pretty and always trying to get with her. Now she tells me everyday she loves me and im the best thing that has ever happened to her. She says im the sweetest guy and there is no one else like me. I really love her but idk i guess maybe im kinda jealous but when im on the phone she tells me that another guy sent her a message saying they really like her and that she should be with them and im just thinkin is she tryin to get me jealous to see how i react but im confused. Am i just being stupid? I mean im usually very laid back but now im stressed bc i have this very beautiful gf that all these guys are chasing after. Tell me if im just bein a idiot cuz i think i am but idk. I know its not her fault that shes so pretty but I mean how would you feel if your loved one had ppl textin them and trying to get with them. Plus she is flirting back and she doesnt even try to tell them to leave her alone. Tell me what to think bc im confused as hell You are RIGHT to be upset about this. No, she cannot help being pretty and she cannot help other people being interested in her. But she CAN and SHOULD tell them to please not text her or say inappropriate things because she is in a relationship. If a girl tries to hit on my bf or buy him a drink, he politely declines, and if she pushes the issue, he informs her about me. He doesn't flirt back and let those actions/words continue! She either needs to grow up and respect your relationship, or you should find someone else who really appreciates you.
Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 When I was with my ex, I had tons of guys telling me that I was the bees knees. He never knew, because it didn't occur to me to tell him something that might instill unwarranted fear and jealously. I was hopelessly devoted to him, and never would have even thought about leaving him for one of those guys. Although, maybe I should have... because the more I think about it, I don't think he ever told me I was beautiful or smart or funny without me having to fish for it.
Dexter Morgan Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 badazz. everything everyone is saying pretty much leads to one conclusion..........get a better girlfriend. this one is loving the attention, soliciting it, and giving her number out to other guys. so let them do you a favor and have her.
Author badazz Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 I mean have any of you ever had that gut feeling where u think your loved one is with someone else? I just have this gut feeling and its like my stomach is in knots all the time. But idk if i shuld trust my gut or not. Maybe i should just confront her about this and ask strait up.
Author badazz Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 I think your right dexter. i mean i have other ppl that like me to but i dont go rubbing it into her face. If she cant stop flirting and giving out her number then i guess i should end it.
Phateless Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 when im on the phone she tells me that another guy sent her a message saying they really like her and that she should be with them and im just thinkin is she tryin to get me jealous to see how i react but im confused. Am i just being stupid? No, SHE is being extremely stupid and immature. She is seeking validation that you care about her. You've done well by being unreactive to this childish nonsense so far. Tell her this: "I think it's cute that you want me to be jealous, but you don't need to try so hard. I'm with YOU and you don't need to worry about that. You shouldn't let those poor guys waste their time."
Ella whispers Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Even the most physically attractive people I know have issues w/ self confidence. If she has to fish for it, let someone else deal w/ it. She's giving them her number for a reason, maybe she likes drama. Oh and Dexter, LOVE the show, seen them all.
stellaluna Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 This girl is intentionally seeking a reaction from you by trying to make you jealous. Why the heck are you putting up with her handing her digits out to other guys? I'd end it if I knew my girl was doing this. Sexy chicks are a dime a dozen- there are plenty of them to go around. Being hot shouldn't come with a free pass for bad behavior.
flyguy23 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I have the same type of GF as the OP. It is very embarassing and I am on the verge of dumping her. I cant deal with a girl like that
pigeonsid Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Badazz - You need to have a serious talk with your girlfriend, reassure her that you love her and ask her why she needs to keep telling you about these other guys. If they hit on her, that is one thing, but first of all - she shouldn't be encouraging them and second of all - why would she tell you about it? She should be shutting them down when they make moves on her, and also protecting you and your feelings. Unless one is particularly aggressive or insistent, I don't see why she would need to tell you about it.
alphamale Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Tell me what to think bc im confused as hell you have to learn to ignore all the attention she gets from other dudes. whatever you do do not acknowledge them in any way and don't get mad or jealous. the one thing you could do is have some chicks start calling you and see what she does
linwood Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 She`s playing you, their isn`t a hot girl in the world who doesn`t know she`s hot. How do all these guys get her phone number? She must give it to them. Why doesn`t she tell them to piss off? Why does she tell you about these texts and guys if it means nothing to her or embarrasses her. You`re young, she`s screwing with your head. She feeds on your jealousy. Wake up and enjoy the girl but don`t get too emotionally hooked on her as it isn`t going to last. Most definitely STOP showing her you`re jealous of all this BS
Author badazz Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Thankya everybody for tellin me strait up, thats good. And ur right. I need to stop being stressed and stop caring about all of this bull. She keeps messing with my head and i guess she just wants to see me jealous. Im gettin tired of it.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Thankya everybody for tellin me strait up, thats good. And ur right. I need to stop being stressed and stop caring about all of this bull. She keeps messing with my head and i guess she just wants to see me jealous. Im gettin tired of it. Good for you bad you know their are mature attractive women out their right? like some one else said "hot" shouldn't be a pass for poor ditzy behavior.
itmustbeme Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Thankya everybody for tellin me strait up, thats good. And ur right. I need to stop being stressed and stop caring about all of this bull. She keeps messing with my head and i guess she just wants to see me jealous. Im gettin tired of it. Gosh made me remember the good old days. I was a popular dude in my school and a new kid when I moved to a small town from the city. Here I was use to all these city girls and I moved to a town had 80 kids in my class. Then i met Cathy and she was so beautiful. Most attractive girl I ever met far better than any girl in the city I could not believe it. Started dating her gosh she was so hot but yet so sweet. Didn't seem to know just how stunning she was. Well after dating for a year it got old. Not her but guys from every town in the state calling her home(before cell phones). It started to get old when we were out guys coming up to her and her flirting. If I wanted to date her I had to live with it. I did until I found out she was out with her "Cousin" one night. I had to dump her and boy was she mad. She lied to me about him but what I think made her more mad is that I broke up with her. Not sure it had happened before. Well years later we were still friends but I could not trust her so I would not date her again. Poor girl ended up dying way to early in life. Dated another really hot girl "Jane". I really liked her too and she had been dating a guy but broke up with him so we started dating. She did not want me dating any other girls so I did not. One night Jane said she was going to stay home for the night. I was in a bar and walked across the street and Jane was in a car with her old boyfriend. LOL If you could have seen the look on her face when I knocked on her door and gave her the finger when I went by. The look on her face was well worth it. She called me a week later and said sorry and she asked me to go to a nice restaurant with her. I said sure and I let her go there on her own and I did not show up I stayed in my room at college with a cute blonde I had met. Boy was she pissed when she came to my room and found me with another girl. I told her now you know how I felt last week. And to really piss her off I dated her sister who was 2 years younger the following year. Her little sister was even hotter. The point of all of this is girls that are really hot can be to big a pain in the ass to deal with. Guys always hitting on them it just is not worth it. And the funny thing when you are young is that in 30 years when they go to all of their reunions a lot of times they are no longer the hot girl. The plain gal in the class all of a sudden is da bomb lol. If she keeps doing the flirting crap i would get rid of her...Well maybe right after I did the nasty with her just one more time... What can i say I am a class act.
stace79 Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I'm in a relationship sort of like this, actually. It sounds to me like you don't trust your girlfriend--does she give you a reason to, or not? Guys hit on me quite a bit--I don't give out my number, I tell people I have a boyfriend, and yet guys from when I was single continue to contact me, knowing these things. I try not to flirt back, but at the same time, try to be cordial. The problem is, unless I'm burning bridges and telling guys to essential F*** off, they think there is still a chance. There's not too much I can do, since many of them work with me. Try to distinguish the difference between if your girlfriend is just being cordial, or if she's sending sexy texts back. It could be that, could be something else depending on what she's sending. If you're in a relationship, and guys are contacting you inappropriately, you SHOULD at some point burn bridges. I have a guy who's always been interested in me, who when I'm single sends me texts that are borderline inappropriate, so when I'm in a R they're definitely inappropriate. I texted him back just yesterday saying "You know I'm with [my bf's name], so knock that ***** off". He replied saying sorry. If he gets offended, so be it. I don't need to be in contact with, much less friends with, someone who doesn't respect my relationship.
Bobby2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I mean have any of you ever had that gut feeling where u think your loved one is with someone else? Uh oh. TS, most people here have had that feeling and in most cases it isn't just your imagination. Whether she is cheating or not, something is off about her. I'm sorry to say, but you might want to think about ending it. Those feelings you are having are never going to stop. If she loves you, she will want you to stay with her. If she is fine with you wanting to break, you'll know where her head was the whole time.
YellowShark Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I really love her but idk i guess maybe im kinda jealous but when im on the phone she tells me that another guy sent her a message saying they really like her and that she should be with them and im just thinkin is she tryin to get me jealous to see how i react but im confused. DEAL BREAKER! If guys are sending her messages she is giving them her number. If she is giving them her number she doesn't respect you OR your relationship. That means she's playing the field AND you're her doormat. Sorry but there it is in black and white. Tell her to respect the boundaries of your relationship or dump her before she breaks your heart by getting into an EA...
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