jenny13 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 i met this guy at my old work. To cut a long story short when we first met he opened up to me immediately and he is not normally a guy to open up. To cut a long story short a girl at my work started to tell me all this information about how he was always cheating on his GF and how he was a womaniser and a lot of other stuff (this was supposed to be his friend). I believed her. We both liked each other but because i thought he had a gf I decided to let go and did not feel it was right to pursue things. Although he never mentioned he had a gf and on my last day he kept saying 'is this the last time i'm ever going to see u (few times)? I said yes and he grabbed me and held me and then kissed me on my cheeks and forehead-I pushed him away. Couple of months later i SAW him at a mutual party and i SAW the girl as well who came and sat next to me and said that he had told her that he wanted to marry her and that he loved her (note she has a BF for the last two years) and when i SAID he has a GF (she said oh they broke up). I decided to leave and as I was leaving he wanted to say goodbye and I just walked off he stopped me and asked what was wrong I told him everytihing. he spent TWO hours conving me that he never said anything to her and that he would never do that...he asked abt my love life and asked whetehr I would be interested if SOMEBODY came upto me for a relationship...etc etc and we chated for next few hours while the girl was all over him and wouldnt leave us alone. He said that he never had a gf...(BROKE up months and months before) and then he opened up again and then he got angry as to why i wouldn't open up to him and kept repeating this over and over again. He kept saying that he was honest with the way he felt and thins he said and why i COULDN't do the same for him. I said that after the things i HEARD abt him (as i never told him all) i dont know him well enough. he kept getting upset and walked off i ran after him and apologised and he asked for my number. He then asked me whether I planned to go back home to HK for good (as i was there for the last two months and he has bad memories of the place)...i said why is it important for him to know...he kept saying I need to know whether u want to be there for the rest of ur life...i said no and he kissed me again...i texted him and told him that i had to go back in a week back home (but did not specify when i will be back but from previos conversation he knew i had 6 months off before i start work). To cut a long story short he ignored the text and never replied back. 4 months on he text me...and wants to meet up... I'm not sure what to do. Because a part of me is scared because the girl ended up dumping her BF and I'm not sure whether he is a player/womaniser or not and don't know who to believes since most of my info came from her. 2) Am i just an option for him in terms of him just being bored and he thinks im always avaliable. mY FRIENDS keep telling me that if he liked me he would have kept in touch even if you were out of the country and he was upset that you were going back home.... not sure what to do...
Serenitynow Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 How old are both of you ? He does sound like hes playing you. You two arent even dating and you are having arguments like you are married. If you do date him, I bet you will always be wondering if hes cheating. You know that hes going to still go to partys and flirt with other girls. I'm sure you wont be happy with him. .
Author jenny13 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 (edited) I'm 28 and he is 37. i think you are right. I'm not usually confrontational but he kept going on and on about my feelings etc and didn't feel ready to say anything but i think he wanted me to react...because he kept saying that he liked arguing with me...Thanks again for your response... Edited July 12, 2010 by jenny13
Serenitynow Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Hes 37 ????? WOW The actions you described made me think he was like 20. You deserve way better than this guy. And whats with him kissing you all the time ? You arent even dating. Thats a red flag right there. Sounds like hes a creeper. .
Author jenny13 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Hi. Thanks. He's always kissing me on the cheeks or forehead. At first it was a goodbye because i leaving the company...but it was VERY WEIRD..and the next time it was more like a goodbye peck on the cheeks/forehead (quicker) but still i'm not use to that. I think he wants me to show a reaction (to show him I like him by kissing him back) but I'm not that sort of girl esp when i don't know him I think HE OVERREACTED when i SAID I don't know/trust him. I don't think the way he reacted was NOT normal for two 'friends' he reacts like we are in a relationship with each other? From the start I told him that i have morals and values and said Im not looking to have a one night stand n it was him who asked abt dating/relationship....he got soo upset and said that 'what makes you think that i DON'T have morals or values'. He even said all the things you heard about me and ALL lies... Do you think I should meet with him and tell him face to face that I only WANT friendship and nothing more? or just ignore him
Green Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Do you think I should meet with him and tell him face to face that I only WANT friendship and nothing more? or just ignore him What ever works best for you. I enjoy ignoring people when I reject them.
Author jenny13 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 PS. yep he is 37 and Ive already told him he is childish and he even agreed
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