Tim7332 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I took an interest in a girl at work and kind of screwed things up. I was impatient and tried too hard and I think I came off as weak and desperate. Anyways, the girl still flirts with me somewhat and I think she still has some sort of interest, however I notice at times she teases me a little mean spiritedly. For example when I tell her how to do something at work she'll say crap like "yes sir" and just be really flippant with me. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Is she trying to hurt me or flirt with me?
desertmoon Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I took an interest in a girl at work and kind of screwed things up. I was impatient and tried too hard and I think I came off as weak and desperate. Anyways, the girl still flirts with me somewhat and I think she still has some sort of interest, however I notice at times she teases me a little mean spiritedly. For example when I tell her how to do something at work she'll say crap like "yes sir" and just be really flippant with me. Is this a good thing or a bad thing? Is she trying to hurt me or flirt with me? She's trying to keep you interested in her even though she is not interested in you. It makes her feel good.
Gallaxia Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 It could just be friendly teasing. What about it is mean spirited? Her tone? Let me ask you, have you worked there longer than her? or is your position higher than hers? That could be why. I've said that plenty of times, just joking around- once I was comfortable with the person.
Author Tim7332 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 (edited) It could just be friendly teasing. What about it is mean spirited? Her tone? Let me ask you, have you worked there longer than her? or is your position higher than hers? That could be why. I've said that plenty of times, just joking around- once I was comfortable with the person. Yeah I've been here longer and I'm a higher position than she is. Is she just messing with me? Or trying to make me feel bad? Her tone is one of mocking, like she's making fun of/laughing at me. Also, what does it mean when I straight up ask her if she's interested and she says "I feel something but I'm not sure yet if I want to be more than friends". Not interested or playing hard to get? Edited July 12, 2010 by Tim7332
Author Tim7332 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 can anybody else help me out here? I'm really bothered by this whole situation and I'm constantly worrying about it and my failings with women in general.
brainygirl Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 hmm, I can't tell you what is on her mind, or your "failings with women in general", but I can say that attempting to attract someone in a position lower than yours at work is risky business. You risk both being accused of sexual harassment, and loosing face and respect with subordinates at work. I'd let this one go, treat her completely professionally, and look somewhere other than work for dates.
Gallaxia Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Good rule of thumb is "Don't eat your meat, where you make your bread". when I straight up ask her if she's interested and she says "I feel something but I'm not sure yet if I want to be more than friends". Not interested or playing hard to get? Don't ask her again. She will feel pressured... from a higher-up. That'd be all kinds of bad.
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