melissa123 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 So I caved and Im SOOOOOOOO angry at myself I went onto facebook and was on another friends site when in the mutual friends he popped up. I saw he had a new profile pic and i just couldn't help myself. I clicked on his site to get a better look of it. It wasn't anything exciting, just of him and a male mate. I didnt stay round and stalk him but I saw he had added hundreds of photos recently. I clicked off straight away but I am mad at myself. What if that picture had been him with another girl? Or what if when I clicked on his profile it had come up with 'in a relationship'. I am so angry at myself for caving!! I need to block his site so I cant get on it. How do I do this? I dont wanna delete him as I think that is petty and I dont want him to think I care that much to do that. And to top it off I had another dream of him last night. The same dream that I keep having that he is txting me and telling me he cant wait to see me and that everything between us has been a mistake. Its tearing me up! Please tell me offf
rocket182 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Deleting him isn't petty, and you shouldn't care what he would think about him doing that. I honestly think deleting him is the best option. If you're still his friend the temptation is way too strong and even if you aren't looking it can make you think about looking which is still you thinking about him. (Keep in mind I don't really know the background of the situation I'm just going off of this post). I spent over a year pining after somebody that things just weren't working out with, and then once we had something and it failed miserably, I spent another few months upset about it. I wasn't able to get over him until I deleted him off of every site, deleted his phone number, and all of that. I was skepitcal about it working at first, but after about a month and a half of NC I honestly couldn't care less. I really feel for people in this situation and I wish the best to you. Remember that you have people to support you and know that you are strong and you can get through this even if sometimes it feels like you can't.
rocket182 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 I just went back and read some of the things you posted, and your situation sounds a lot like the one I was in. The real question you need to ask yourself is are you doing this to see if he'll respond and be interested? Or are you doing this to get over him and move on? Because If you just want to test him, then just don't initiate conversation for a while and see what he does. If that doesn't make a difference though, then he doesn't deserve you. NC really does work wonders for getting over somebody and a bad situation though.
Author melissa123 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Thankyou for your reply, thats really sweet of you I don't really know what im doing! He is the most confusing boy ive ever come across!!! I do want to disappear tho as all this confusion is actually really hurting me He does things that makes me thing hes so keen, but then does stuff that makes me think he doesn't care at all. Im really good friends with his best mate who yesterday said he was really keen on me but really shy and not very good with communication! But I just want to back away now as the last conversation we had he seemed dis interested and not keen at all. I adore this guy and actually can't get him out of my head. Ive done NC for a week and a day lol go me! I dont want to delete him as then it looks like I care and I dont want him to think im a crazy phsycotic girl who can't handle her emotions. Is there a way I can delete myself from seeing his page? Im guna stop posting on my own for a while as everytime I post something I think of him and what he might think of my new status etc O i just need him out my head so bad!!!!
skydiveaddict Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 You're never gonna get over this guy if you keep looking at his fb page. You need to move on, let yourself heal up some.
messymichelle Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 i feel for you i really do, i know how your feeling though what i done last night was worse. but god help me im suffering for it now, i feel like im back to square one and i dont want to be there again, i cant get him out of my head either at this point i just want it all to stop. i want to be able to think of me and erase all thoughts and memories of him. i know that i wont sleep tonight knowing that my ex is with her just 13 hrs after leaving my bed, and that hurts. if i do sleep waking up in the morning is going to be worse your not alone, keep posting i find it helps me, not sure if this helps you xx
Author melissa123 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 Sky dive addict- I never look at his page!! But today I caved and I did and im really mad at myself!! Michelle- darl I read your thread and I know you must be feeling bad I dont really know what to say to make it better. Just know your not alone. When your upset (like tonight) remember theres many many others who are feeling the same way and who are right here with you. I want to wave a wand and make it all better for you I dont really no what to suggest other than to stick to NC as much as possible and just act like you don't care. Maybe make it known you are dating that other guy?. You always seem to want what you can't have so its sure to stir up some kind of reaction in him, whether or not he shows it. Good luck hun
skydiveaddict Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Sky dive addict- I never look at his page!! But today I caved and I did and im really mad at myself!! Sorry, I got the impression that you did. But since you looked today you cant do anything about it now. Just try not to do it again. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it
messymichelle Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 melissa thank you, its comforting to know that somewhere out there that there is people who care more about my feelings than he does. ive had a good cry and spent the last few hours goin through older posts and i must say it does help. im going back to nc ( except anything to do with the kids) and i will come back from this again, but just not tonight, because i feel like my heart is going to explode and the tears keep coming eve though i know hes not worth them, tonight i for me to cry it out and try and have a better day tomorrow god knows im trying maybe he will cut me some slack tomorrow lol
Username37 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Same situation. I still have my ex girlfriend on FB. I see her status updates and who she becomes friends with. It's painful as hell seeing everything. And yes I'm one of those people who CAN'T delete her. I'm trying to move on but I away find out something new and realize some different every ****ing day.
CLC2008 Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 So I caved and Im SOOOOOOOO angry at myself I went onto facebook and was on another friends site when in the mutual friends he popped up. I saw he had a new profile pic and i just couldn't help myself. I clicked on his site to get a better look of it. It wasn't anything exciting, just of him and a male mate. I didnt stay round and stalk him but I saw he had added hundreds of photos recently. I clicked off straight away but I am mad at myself. What if that picture had been him with another girl? Or what if when I clicked on his profile it had come up with 'in a relationship'. I am so angry at myself for caving!! I need to block his site so I cant get on it. How do I do this? I dont wanna delete him as I think that is petty and I dont want him to think I care that much to do that. And to top it off I had another dream of him last night. The same dream that I keep having that he is txting me and telling me he cant wait to see me and that everything between us has been a mistake. Its tearing me up! Please tell me offf Don't be mad at yourself, sometimes you slip, and that's ok.
Author melissa123 Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 Thanks so much for the replies Sorry skydiving addict, I probably worded my post badly. I used to go on his site like 10x a day. I stalked all his photos and posts etc. Now im doing NC im not allowing myself to go on at all. Its pretty hard. I slipped up yesterday and had a closer look at his profile photo and im pretty mad at myself for it! Michelle how are you doing? Hope you are better Username37 thankyou for your reply, good to know someone is like me I read your other post and I think its so cool shes deleted you. 1. It obviously means she is not over you and 2. you don't have to look like you can't cope by deleting her! and clc2008 thankyou for you kind words, makes me feel better I am doing ok myself, im on one week and two days NC. For now ive just stopped posting on my own facebook site. Everything I posted I did with him in mind so im going to stop for a while till it doesn't bother me much more. Tonight I feel a bit sad and I have a MASSIVE urge to go and look at his photos and just see how he is doing. O please stop me. Im also beating myself up tonight Not sure if anyone can remember but he came to see me at a competition and I got so nervous I blew the entire thing and made an absolute embarrasemnt of myself. I haven't heard from him since and im massivly beating myself up about it tonight Im sure if I had done what I was capable of I would be hearing from him. Hes probably embarrased of me!! Siiiigh
messymichelle Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 melissa, im doing ok thanks taking one day at a time, its bloody hard this nc but its for the best, im just focusing on myself and the kids for now, i still cant stop thinking about him and what hes at but im pretty sure that he isnt thinking about me!! im sorry today is a bad day for you but keep going you will be glad you did and take my personal advice from experience try not to slip up!!! it will only set you back i mean look at me back to square one with nc its been 2 days!!! having said that its made me more determined to stick to it
Sadbutrelieved Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 I would just delete him, get rid of the temptation to look. Don't worry about what he'll think. Once I went totally NC with my ex, I got over him a lot quicker.
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