rocket182 Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Soon after I moevd in with my boyfriend I was putting some stuff away in a cupboard of the entertainment center. In there he keeps his porn. He was a decent amound and it honestly does not bother me. I accidently knocked some of the movies over, and while picking them up a picture fell from between two of them. It was a picture of a very good looking girl with a very nice body in her bra and underwear. I don't know who it is, I'm kindof assuming its his ex (who he dated for two years, they broke up 3 years ago because she was cheating on him). I feel silly for it bothering me, but it does. I feel like it's odd for him to have a picture like that of someone he broke up with 3 years ago. It's not something thats just been hanging out because he's moved a few times since they broke up, most recently being around november. Would this bother anyone else? Am I crazy for letting it get to me?
Shakz Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Do you like men who keep porn collections and save semi-nude pictures of exes? If so, go for it. Otherwise, move on. It's on you.
Author rocket182 Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 I don't see anything wrong with him having the movies. His ex was the last person he had sex with and that was 3 years ago. Men will be men it's not anything that hurts me at all. The picture thing is the only thing I find weird. The last time he moved was befoer we were together so I don't think he kept it around even though he had me, I just think it's weird he kept it for that whole time.
Art_Critic Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 To me it would matter how long that porn collection has been collecting dust.. If he hasn't been in it and watch those movies in over 3 years then he most likely doesn't even know it is there.. or maybe she put it there and he never found it.. but....... If he watches that porn and knows it is there then you have a problem.. you are dating someone who isn't over their ex.. Providing the picture is of his ex...
Shakz Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 My guess is he's still carrying a torch for here to a certain degree. I doubt it's anything to be worried about. If it bothers you, tell him about your feelings. I'm pretty sure he'll rip the picture right in front of you if that's what you want. If not, c'est la vie.
brokendream Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 It may not even be his ex. It could be some random girl he met online for all you know. Either way, like the above posters I would wonder if it's still there because he forgot about it or it's something he doesn't want to let go of.
sally4sara Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 If you need to know how much the picture matters to him (how often he looks at the photo), move it. Put it in your box of tampons; he'll never look there. As for his porn stash.... Who is dumb enough to pay for porn anyway when there is so much free porn on the internet?!? For me it would be a matter of intelligence level and paying for porn isn't on my list of things a smart person does.
Author rocket182 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 For me it would be a matter of intelligence level and paying for porn isn't on my list of things a smart person does. Most of it is DVDs his friends burned for him, what isn't burned DVDs it's stuff he was given, mostly VHS.
linwood Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 The picture itself is not a big deal. The fact that he keeps it with his porn is a big red flag though. The porn is masturbation material and it appears his Ex is as well. That would bug me.
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