Myst Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 (edited) Hi Ive been dating a guy for about 8 months now and its going great. We met on a dating site. Im 24 hes 30. Weve both met each others parents and friends, we get along well, although weve had a couple of arguments, not fights, but we ended up making up. Ive told him I loved him, he hasnt told me yet. We dont live together, we see each other about twice a week. I want to get married before Im 30 and i dont know whether i should keep dating him to see if he could be my potential husband. The thing that is making me doubt him is that he has some of the characteristics of being more predisposed to being divorced if he gets married. Here are the articles that have the list for predictors of divorce: Academic article - http://www.chs.fsu.edu/~ffincham/papers/divorce-fine.pdf A web article - http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2010-05-19/15-ways-to-predict-divorce/ Wikipedia article on divorce rate of inter racial marriages. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States#Asian_and_White He meets a lot of the predictors of divorce like: 1. His parents separated when he was over 18- theyre separated but they stil live in the same house-so not divorced. Theyre staying in the same house for financial reasons-i dont know anymore details than that. 2. He lived with a girlfriend in his early 20s and then they broke up then long after that he met me 3.He smokes and I dont 4. Hes not religious at all, I used to be catholic but at the moment i may be agnostic as Im still questioning religion etc.. 5. We both come from different cultural backgrounds. Im Filipino and he's Australian Am i worrying too much? Should I keep dating him? Opinions pls. Thanks in advance:) Edited July 11, 2010 by Myst
Mr White Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 All such studies have huge random error, i.e. the variables included can explain only a certain percentage (in social sciences typically less than 50%!) of the variance in the outcome. The relationships between variables are probabilistic, not causal. So, as long as the relationship is going well, don't obsess too much over what "could" happen. Evaluate on its own merits.
carhill Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Ive been dating a guy for about 8 months now and its going great If he proposed today to become betrothed with a year-long engagement, what would you say? To me, that's an excellent indicator of how you *feel*. If you have some doubts, but 'it's going great', then enjoy the great and see how it goes in the future. Not every great relationship is a marriage. Acceptance is key. Hope it works out
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