bananaboat11 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Eh, you're probably like me. I'm a so-called "great catch". The issue/problem at hand with me is I over-analyze... very picky... I attempt to go with the flow, but I always try to plan and it bombs... and I tend to be anhedonic at times b/c I'm involved in academia and eat, sleep, ****, breathe, and dwell on science... + physical fitness, health, wellness, and nutrition are huge parts of my life.... deal breakers?
SassyKitten Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 They shouldn't be deal breakers. I've also come to the conclusion that relationships have a tendancy to bring out the worst in people, male or female.
bananaboat11 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 They shouldn't be deal breakers. I've also come to the conclusion that relationships have a tendancy to bring out the worst in people, male or female. Everyone has strengths, positive qualities, etc. They are what mold us... shape us... structure us... Everyone has weaknesses, vulnerabilities, insecurities, and negative qualities. They are what define us and make us unique. Anyone can see another's strengths and love them... but to truly recognize another's weaknesses and insecurities and accept them... that's a relationship. Platonic. Romantic. That is rare.
SassyKitten Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Anyone can see another's strengths and love them... but to truly recognize another's weaknesses and insecurities and accept them... that's a relationship. Platonic. Romantic. That is rare. So true. No one is perfect.
bananaboat11 Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 So true. No one is perfect. That's what makes relationships so special. That's why I truly believe anything that lasts longer than 1 month... you will never be forgotten. If it were purely 100% physical only... it wouldn't last that long.
Author crfsti Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Yes, it's like "having everything going for you". The only people who ever get that label are suicidal. I'm not going to lie, i have thought about it a few times before.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 I'm not going to lie, i have thought about it a few times before. Well, then that cinches it - you are a 'great catch'. (not for the suicidal feelings, but because of the association I presented) TIME is your ally in all of this, and suicide would eliminate your greatest asset (and most of your other ones as well).
JDreamer Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I used to be a guy who was told, you're a "great catch", or "you look really good on paper, i don't know why you don't have a girlfriend"....If i could go back in time and give myself some advice, i'd tell me... #1....go to the gym, yah, a girl shouldn't be attracted to you because of your looks, it's shallow, blah..blahh..blahh...but you can't argue that guys w/ better bodies = a better shot with girls....it's hard, and it might get expensive with gym fees and diet supplements, but it's a simple direct way to attract the opposite sex... #2....the other thing i'd tell myself, is to stop worrying about it so much, to find things i like to do and enjoy, and in the process maybe find some people who also like the things i like, and make friends and enjoy being alive and living!
Author crfsti Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Well, then that cinches it - you are a 'great catch'. (not for the suicidal feelings, but because of the association I presented) TIME is your ally in all of this, and suicide would eliminate your greatest asset (and most of your other ones as well). Yeah, I know. Don't think I could ever go through with it, makes me think about how sad my mom would be.
Author crfsti Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 I used to be a guy who was told, you're a "great catch", or "you look really good on paper, i don't know why you don't have a girlfriend"....If i could go back in time and give myself some advice, i'd tell me... #1....go to the gym, yah, a girl shouldn't be attracted to you because of your looks, it's shallow, blah..blahh..blahh...but you can't argue that guys w/ better bodies = a better shot with girls....it's hard, and it might get expensive with gym fees and diet supplements, but it's a simple direct way to attract the opposite sex... #2....the other thing i'd tell myself, is to stop worrying about it so much, to find things i like to do and enjoy, and in the process maybe find some people who also like the things i like, and make friends and enjoy being alive and living! Good tips. Yeah, I work out at home and my job(plumbing) keeps me in shape(5'8''/160lbs) Been trying to focus on abs lately, which is slow at getting the results i want...but know it will pay off sooner or later. And yeah, i know i shouldn't worry about it and just enjoy being alive and well. It just pops into my head once in a while.
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