ipg37 Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Hi guys, I am a new member here and I just happened to come across this site when I was browsing at stuff, after my break up with my girlfriend, Some information about my girlfriend and I (both 20, almost 21). We first met at a church that my mom goes to and her parents are the Pastors' of the church! We started going on dates and on July 14th, it would've been exactly 2 months since we've been together. Right now, she is at a camp with her sister, teaching music and she comes back next week. Anyway, long story short, two weeks ago, her parents told my girlfriend that they DID NOT want her to be with me because I attend her church. They think that if something happens between us, it will affect the church and my sister and moms relationship with them. I agree with them but I feel like we were so strong with each other and madly in love that nothing would happen. Basically, two weeks ago, she ignored them and told me and promised me that no matter what happens, we will always be together and will work as a team and get through it. But today, her sister came up to her at camp, crying, telling her that she chooses me over their own family. She called me two hours ago, crying and we eventually decided to break up because she didn't want to hurt her family... It is so heartbreaking because I know she loves me so much and I love her so much. Every single day, we send each other long texts about how we love each other and want to be with each other for ever, and every little romantic thing we can talk about. So what do I do now? I asked her to call me later tonight so we can officially end it. I really want to be with her, and I will keep seeing her at church and at college. It's a really weird situation. Do I keep trying to calm her down and assure her that everything will be okay? Do I just let her go? What do I do? What would you guys do? Help, I feel like crying my eyes out. I love the girl to death and she loves me to death. Do I play it and just not talk to her until I see her at church? Do I go up to her parents tomorrow and beg them to allow me to be with their daughter? She told me not TO do this. Help!
YellowShark Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 (edited) Anyway, long story short, two weeks ago, her parents told my girlfriend that they DID NOT want her to be with me because I attend her church. How "Christian" of them. They think that if something happens between us, it will affect the church and my sister and moms relationship with them. I am sure the church will survive this "future" event. You two are both over 18 and do not live in the 10th century. Frankly these parents have no right treating you two like possessions. Basically, two weeks ago, she ignored them and told me and promised me that no matter what happens, we will always be together and will work as a team and get through it. Well at least somebody is acting likes it's the 21st century. But today, her sister came up to her at camp, crying, telling her that she chooses me over their own family. Wrong. She is choosing you and love instead of following medieval rulings from mommy and daddy. It is so heartbreaking because I know she loves me so much and I love her so much. Every single day, we send each other long texts about how we love each other and want to be with each other for ever, and every little romantic thing we can talk about. And that sounds absolutely amazing. How cruel that "the parents" are more worried about their standing at their "church" than the happiness of their children. So what do I do now? You tell her you love her and since you are over 18 you are an adult and allowed to determine your own future. Do I go up to her parents tomorrow and beg them to allow me to be with their daughter? She told me not TO do this. Help! I'm giving you some tough love advice here ipg37, but to hell with what her parents think. This isn't medieval France and you are both legally adults free to make up your own minds. Ultimately do what you feel is right ipg37, but IMHO I am appalled by the situation that these religious fanatics are imposing on you and your girlfriend's lives. Edited July 11, 2010 by YellowShark spelling
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