kahn2154 Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 I'm a social retard, posted about it before, pretty much stay at home all day have very little social experience, don't go out etc. I kind of realized lately I'm fine talking with someone if they start or such, eg sitting next to someone on plane/poker table etc. But I suck at intro small talk, really socially awkward, and fear just going up to random people starting conversations. Anyways I'm in Vegas for a few days and basically just walk around seeing everyone socialize and just wondering if someone could give me tips on meeting people, particularly girls since I'm rarely in these type of environments. I don't think I'm looking to hookup or anything, just confidence booster/experience as I'd be terrified of doing anything further than that to be honest. I don't drink so that makes it harder. Also, sat on plane next to girl who works for company I'm interested in and she gave me her card/number and offered to hook me up with tickets. I had no problem talking to her for hours on flight but walked with her after flight and got a little awkward there. Don't know if I should follow up or not on that, any tips in regards to that? Also, want to meet someone I know from online who's in Vegas, he gave me his number and told me to call him when I'm free, once again a little anxious about this and scared I will come off as a loser and put in situation I'm uncomfortable in if he invites me to go out as I'll probably be wallflower in club or whatever.
bananaboat11 Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 This isn't to be an ass, but why not start off with a simple hi. It's short for hello. Maybe even your name too? If they don't reciprocate... dig a hole, bury it... move on to the next one. If they do give you their name... then you can start the witty banter. Ask where they're originally from (b/c most people are not from vegas... and unless they're the casino owner or family member... you don't want to get involved.. trust me). Ask her if she's on business or pleasure and for how long? What does she recommend around the strip? etc... Mention you're in vegas for a few days taking a mini-vacation and try to observe if she is single... ie, ring on her finger? hanging with a spouse? You could be corny and if you notice a ring on her finger just be like, "if that ring on your finger means you're taken, you're breaking a lot of hearts" Nah, don't do that. Be yourself. Be friendly. be spontaneous. Be fresh. Be wild. Be free. Be responsible. Be vegas. ps - I'm a HUGE social retard. I just know how to have fun. with or without alcohol.
Author kahn2154 Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 But I mean, I don't even know where to go, I am too self consious to go to a club because I know I'll just be a wallflower, same with bar, can barely bring myself to go to restaruarnt alone. Where do I even approach women like this
You'reasian Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 I'm a social retard, posted about it before, pretty much stay at home all day have very little social experience, don't go out etc. kind of realized lately I'm fine talking with someone if they start or such, eg sitting next to someone on plane/poker table etc. But I suck at intro small talk, really socially awkward, and fear just going up to random people starting conversations. . Your behavior shows that you are not a social retard. Shy maybe.
Author kahn2154 Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 any advice on what to do with the girl on the plane? Don't know whether to follow it up but don't want to regret not doing anythign in a week
Shakz Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Like the ad says, "just do it." When you agonize over what to say, you will never say anything. Say something. Just be cordial. Be yourself. Don't try to put on an act. But don't hesitate to let her know you're interested in getting together. If you hesitate, you'll come across as creepy. If you rush it, you seem desperate. Pick your opportunity, she'll let you know, then make your move. If she doesn't respond favorably, you'll know you missed the clues. That's good. Next time you'll be more aware. You're a bright guy. Be confident. What's the worst that could happen?
Author kahn2154 Posted July 12, 2010 Author Posted July 12, 2010 texted her yesterday, no response, I suck at life
Author kahn2154 Posted July 13, 2010 Author Posted July 13, 2010 texted her yesterday and today someone told me some people turn texting off on blackberry business phones (don't know if she gave me cell or bus cell number). She said email or call but not comfortable calling. Should I try emailing or will I look too desperate and should just give it up
alphamale Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 Anyways I'm in Vegas for a few days and basically just walk around seeing everyone socialize and just wondering if someone could give me tips on meeting people, particularly girls since I'm rarely in these type of environments. most of the good lookings chicks sitting by themselves at the casino bars are hookers. thats a sure thing...
Shakz Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 most of the good lookings chicks sitting by themselves at the casino bars are hookers. thats a sure thing... Not necessarily. Some are dudes.
vestigalvirgin Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 texted her yesterday and today someone told me some people turn texting off on blackberry business phones (don't know if she gave me cell or bus cell number). She said email or call but not comfortable calling. Should I try emailing or will I look too desperate and should just give it up Confidence you are lacking, young jedi. Dude, seriously, she said she wants you to email or call, so do it! Script: "Hi nice to hear from you." "Hey what's up." "Got any free time this evening/tomorrow/whenever? Let's get together for a drink." That's it. That's ALL there is to it. It's VEGAS baby, there must be a million cool places where you can meet her for a cocktail. If she says "yes" you're in. meet for the drink see if you click, then maybe dinner, then....just let it flow. But you do have to show a little bit of initiative here. If she says no you just say: "Oh OK, well maybe some other time." And move on to other things. Flirt with her a little when you get together, you know, compliment her in a nice but humorous way, mix it in with talking about other random stuff.
vestigalvirgin Posted July 13, 2010 Posted July 13, 2010 What's the worst that could happen? Obviously, the "worst that could happen" is he meets up with her, things seem to be going well, then all of a sudden a bunch of futuristic cops start busting in the glass, and rappelling down from their hover craft (like Tom Cruise in "Minority Report"), to arrest him and put his name on the front pages of the world wide press for liking a girl.
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