brc20 Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Alrightt.. so me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 6 months now, we instantly clicked when we met (yeah online) in an odd way, but we met up in person and ever since then seeing eachother mostly once a week. By the way, I'm a guy too \: I just need help. So yeah my past has pretty much been dating tons of guys, but I never gave the full sexual part of me to any of them except them. On the other side, he has been with 22+ guys. He's about 8 years older than me at 26. He has told me his best d*ck size, how he took it, then the sexiest person he's been with, the sexiest d*ck too. He's done everything there possibly is to do. On the other hand, I'm pretty much left in the cold. I haven't. Me and him have done a lot of sexual stuff together too. I love him very much! I always will. BUT we've been fighting lately because I've been threating on his past. He's already had better people then me! He's done everything. I haven't. I feel that what we will do and have done is just more for him. He says he wants to be with me forever, and I have changed him. He fails to listen to me anymore, telling me to keep my thinking and wondering to myself. and today when I said maybe we weren't meant to be, he said you need to fight, I need to get to work. That was the end of the conversation. He used to have a myspace with tonss of guys on it, which I finally got to go through and he deleted it. I read what he said in the past to about every sexy guy out there. He's been cummed in before, and like every sexual thing like I said before with those 22+ guys before. I do want us to work out, but he's past decisions show me what kind of person he really was. All my friends are just like dump him, get rid of him. It's too hard! I always get all into myself crying and in sad depressed moods about all this. I want us to be happy like he does with us. He also gets mad at me for listening to my friends. He says that he loves me, he won't ever do anything to hurt me and I should know that. I need big advice. PLEASE!!! Anything else you need to know, ask me. please.
Ronni_W Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Hugs, brc. Sorry to say, but this does not sound like a healthy-for-you relationship. His behaviour is dismissive, condescending, contemptuous, demeaning and belittling. It is hurtful, of course it is -- for him to say that he will not "ever do anything to hurt you" is just utter crap. I suspect you are already feeling very hurt by his words, attitude and actions. Listen to and trust your own feelings...especially if or when they are in conflict with his words or actions. Your long-term exposure to this person will erode your self-esteem and kill your spirit. I would encourage you to NOT choose that for yourself. There is a free pdf titled "Relationships: Overcoming the Power of Difference" that can be downloaded from the home page of GrowthCentral.com -- you gotta scroll way down to the bottom. In that, there is a section, "What is a healthy relationship?" Same site, under the "training" tab, there is a free "Relationship Information" pdf. (Again, scroll down to the bottom.) Hopefully you will find these useful to help you make your objective assessment and wise decision about what this guy wants you to tolerate-accept for your "love" experience. You, your mind, heart, body and soul deserve much, much, MUCH better than this for your romantic-love relationship! The way you have described it, it is an emotionally toxic-abusive situation. Sending Courage, Comfort, Guidance and Strength.
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