counterman Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 I don't know what it is but lately I have been feeling very empty. It is as though nothing does it for me anymore. I was at a party with heaps of hot girls and it didn't get me excited. I can't picture dating anyone even girls I find attractive because I feel it's too much effort. A relationship is out of the question. I just want some excitement to kick start things... I am a bit tired of this lull in adrenaline. Have any of you felt like this before? Why? What did you do? What do you recommend I do? I'm thinking. a fling, the taste of another girl will do... but have never had one before and don't know if it'll help.
BobSacamento Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 I assume you are young. So honestly you should be feeling this way. You have to ask yourself: Why would I want to put so much effort into a relationship? Frequent sex. Maybe. Someone to be your DD. Maybe. Someone to shave your back. Perhaps.
Author counterman Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 I asked myself that question and I wouldn't. Maybe I would be up for it if I were feeling something... but I'm not. What does DD stand for?
BubbleFreak Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 I don't know what it is but lately I have been feeling very empty. It is as though nothing does it for me anymore. I was at a party with heaps of hot girls and it didn't get me excited. I can't picture dating anyone even girls I find attractive because I feel it's too much effort. A relationship is out of the question. I just want some excitement to kick start things... I am a bit tired of this lull in adrenaline. Have any of you felt like this before? Why? What did you do? What do you recommend I do? I'm thinking. a fling, the taste of another girl will do... but have never had one before and don't know if it'll help. I have felt something similar to that. Actually it's more like no emotions at all. Just walking around in a zombie state, and seeing other people reacting passionately about something, and me wondering why I didn't feel anything for it and trying to make myself feel that way too to no effect. I wouldn't tell people I know in RL (except close friends that accept me) that I have problems empathising, but 4 years studying/practicing psychology has taught me how to pretend though I'm still not that good at it. I realised this was a big problem of mine when I found out a family member was dying and I just couldn't feel much, nothing I can pinpoint anyway. Maybe I was in denial. I don't know what you should do, but just wanted you to know you are not alone. Maybe see a doctor, could just be a chemical imbalance.
Sivok Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 I feel that way alot too. It's very very hard for me to emotionally connect with people. That's mostly because I went through an emotional hell a few years ago and I guess have alot of walls up now.
carhill Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 IMO, and I've been through the wringer with a divorce and dealing with my mother, I find personal passions which energize me and remain in close contact with a group of trusted, loved and loving friends and this keeps me balanced and 'connected'. Other than a few botched low moments when I've experimented with mom's psych meds, I've made it drug-free. One key element was MC (psychological help); another was accepting life as it is, not how I want it to be, and taking one positive step each day, a step which is meaningful and valuable, even if insignificant to others. That could be completing a chore, helping someone, reading a book, planning a trip. Each of us values aspects of our lives differently. One step at a time, one day at a time. Tomorrow is another day. What are you going to do? Me, I gotta go to the store. The cat needs food and I meet all kinds of interesting ladies at the store
Feelin Frisky Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 See a urologist and get numbers on your overall testosterone and more importantly, your "free testosterone". A below normal free testosterone can be masked as normal if this distinction isn't made. If you find you have low free testosterone, the doctor may prescribe Testim or Androgel-two brands of testosterone booster which you rub on your shoulders and upper arms (not your testes because it will cause your depressed system to become even weaker and more dependent upon this libido hormone.) It enters the body transdermaly and is distributed by the blood. I have used it and let me tell you it worked on my mind right away. I was very hot and found myself fantasizing like a mofo. My output improved greatly. I tried it after reading an article which had to do with listlessness in diabetics rather than any woe about not desiring sex. But the result was pep in my step and gobs of swimmers in my gun.
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