SemperParatus Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Me and my ex hung out a couple of times, she being the one that encouraged it. She flirted with me both times we hung out, and she constantly contacts me just about everyday with phone calls and texts (you can read my previous post going into detail about this). The one thing that gets me though, is that she has kept the engagement ring and a few of my belongings (jackets and sweaters) because she says they are important to her and she doesn't want to give them back to me. Anyway, we finally had the talk of where things were going with us... kinda. After we hung out and I saw how things were not really going anywhere, I figured it was time to part ways. I attempted to do this, but she became very upset and refused to talk about it and just said she would talk to me later. The next day my ex had called me. She told me I was a big part of her life and she wants me to remain as that big part of her life. Regardless if she gets with someone or if I get with someone she wants us to still be the way that we are because she doesn't want to "let me go". The thing is though, she tells EVERYONE about me and how she is still in love with me and cares for me, even a guy she dated for about two weeks. And she told me if someone can't handle her connection with me, then she will have to let them go. Basically... my ex wants this tremendous bond with me, even though she broke up with me in the first place. Me? I want a relationship again eventually. I'm just confused right now because I honestly don't think she is playing around, she is really sincere. But if I want us to ever have a chance again should I keep her around or let her go completely? She is going on a trip this week and has told me numerous times how much she is going to miss me because we won't get to be in contact with each other. I'm thinking perhaps I can just fall off the face of the earth and not talk to her anymore after she comes back from this trip. I just know she will be devestated and hurt if I left her out to dry like that. We even kind of made plans for a movie after she comes back, but now... I don't even know. I honestly have no clue with what to do. I love her, but eventually I will want more then this close relationship.
USMCHokie Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Get out of there. You owe her nothing. If she doesn't want you in her life as a boyfriend, then she doesn't get to have you in her life. It's really that simple. She'll insist on you two having this amazing bond and wanting you to be around...until she meets someone new she finds that amazing bond with...don't wait around for that moment...
Joe Dirt Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t237586/ Take it from me buddy. My ex lead me on for 7 months after the break up. I kept asking her why she wanted me in her life. She said for the support I was giving her through grad school and how much I meant in her life. We were together for 5.5 years. Ultimately I thought I had a chance with her later down the road. Well things started turning ugly when I found her talking with other guys and she becoming interested in them. So to save yourself months of hurt and probable jealous feelings, it is best to give her an all or nothing type of deal. If you are 100% over her sure go for friends, but do not wait around like I did for her to return to you. It only ended up crushing me more.. So take care of yourself and if she doesnt want you back then try to limit contact, but stay friendly. You have no reason to be mean..
none of yo bizness Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 trust me i am a chick. run! don't make breaking up with you easy. she will come running back. she probably has interest in someone else and is waiting to see if they will work out. i doubt she is doing anything wrong, actually thats the right way to go about it, but don't make it easy for her to let u go and she will see your worth.
Thorgs Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 trust me i am a chick. run! don't make breaking up with you easy. she will come running back. she probably has interest in someone else and is waiting to see if they will work out. i doubt she is doing anything wrong, actually thats the right way to go about it, but don't make it easy for her to let u go and she will see your worth. I understand not making the break up easy for her by going NC, but how to you make it so she doesn't let you go by going NC?
Thorgs Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 BTW, OP, my ex tried putting me in the friend zone, but in all honesty, it was too hard to see her having fun while I was at home wanting to be with her. So I would go NC (no contact)...that way you can better yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, etc...and it will give her a chance to miss you. Keep in mind, NC isn't meant to get the ex back, it's meant to help you heal.
cavedweller Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Semper, You have got to stop the drama...You guys need to get back together now or break all contact and move on...
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