rager Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Well, I've done everything by the book so far with NC and my breakup. Except for one tiny detail... So we broke up on the 24th, she made the decision but I knew it was coming. I was played for months in reality, I forced the break up which I was happy about. Lots of friends told me to do it a month or so ago. This doesn't make it any easier to deal with..! She wanted very much to remain friends with me. I said I'd let her know if I could do that down the track. We'd talked about it in the past and I was firm at that stage that I couldn't do it. Get txt from her 7:30am 25th, Saying "Hope it was worthwhile me coming to see you last night and cleared everything up?" - I ignored it Get another txt at 11:55am 25th, saying "Awaiting reply still.." - I ignored it again. Get an MSN message from her on the 27th - asking if we can still play scrabble - I ignore it Get txt from her 28th - "Why you ignoring me? Didn't think we agreed on that, how are you?" - Which I ignored again. Each one of these messages sent a physical jolt through me. Especially the morning after one - it really hurt bigtime. Tuesday night, after having a chat with a friend. I send her my NC email with 4 points : 1) You were right in the decision for us to split. 2) I'm working on myself at the moment, have some decisions to make and things to do with my life. 3) Dont contact me anymore 4) I'll contact you when I'm ready to. This template I got from another site, and modified it to suit. She didn't contact me at all after this so it worked. Which leads me to my one mistake! I should of, at this stage, removed her from my friends list on MSN. But I enjoyed seeing her status updates and pictures etc and it kind of helped me get through it. So today and why its been tough! She removed me from her MSN friends list, signed up to an online dating site (which I've been on since the split) seeing her profile really hit me hardcore. I was so tempted to contact her.. But then I thought nah, this is good. I've been on there for a few weeks anyway. So maybe she needed a few weeks also to clear her mind and get over me too. I cannot break NC yet, no way can I handle it. I'll need to wait until I can think of her with another man, or handle her talking about that before I can contact her again. So in a way seeing her profile on there reminds me that she is seeing other men. Plus I still have a lot of things on my goals list that I need to do and get started. So I've stayed the course, just had a tough time today. But I'm determined to hang in there and get this woman out of my system.
GrayClouds Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 yes remove her from the list, that is called cyber stalking, and you do not want to be that guy, more important why have something that just reopens the wounds and makes things harder for you. .
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