SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 My partner has 2 friends both men ones in his late 20s the other in his early 30s they both are constantly texting my bf about their sexual conquests! in detail mind you. Its getting rather comical to watch I cant help but think these guys are man whores especially the younger one who brags about how he has a different women for every night of the week I kid you not! Is this normal between guys? or is this just inflated bragging whats the general view of such men are they man whores or just lucky in bed? I know what most would call such a women and its not flattering your thoughts LS?
Serenitynow Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 yes, there are a lot of guys that brag in detail of it. But that doesnt always mean its true. There are guys who will make crap up just to boost their ego and be part of the group. I have never bragged about my encounters, because if she becomes my wife at a later time, how would that look with everyone knowing what she did ? I've heard females tell stories as well, but not as much as guys. .
Woggle Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 It sounds like a good life to me. Certainly better than crying because some woman treated like gold broke your heart.
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 It sounds like a good life to me. Certainly better than crying because some woman treated like gold broke your heart. And men don't break womens hearts? How is being a whore a good life? letting yourself get used and ending up alone at the end of it all na ill pass.
Woggle Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 And men don't break womens hearts? How is being a whore a good life? letting yourself get used and ending up alone at the end of it all na ill pass. Men do break women's hearts but it is more likely that she was dating a married or a man who was obviously bad. Men who don't use women end up alone as well when she has her mid life crisis and wants to find herself. At least man whores as you like to call them know what the deal is.
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 Men do break women's hearts but it is more likely that she was dating a married or a man who was obviously bad. Men who don't use women end up alone as well when she has her mid life crisis and wants to find herself. At least man whores as you like to call them know what the deal is. Just to let ya know I don't discriminate there are women whores as well! so let me get you right here when women get hurt its because they set them selves up for it BUT when most men get hurt its just because of evil women is that pretty much the jest of it?
carhill Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 My partner has 2 friends both men ones in his late 20s the other in his early 30s they both are constantly texting my bf about their sexual conquests! in detail mind you.How does your partner feel about that? Obviously, he's sharing it with you (for reasons unknown to me) so my question follows... Is this normal between guys?The men in my social circle generally do not kiss and tell, whether they be married or single. I don't know if it is intrinsic or if they respect that I don't appreciate such commentary. Regardless, in my view, the result is positive. Intimacies have their place and IMO it isn't in social conversation with an audience.
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 How does your partner feel about that? Obviously, he's sharing it with you (for reasons unknown to me) so my question follows... The men in my social circle generally do not kiss and tell, whether they be married or single. I don't know if it is intrinsic or if they respect that I don't appreciate such commentary. Regardless, in my view, the result is positive. Intimacies have their place and IMO it isn't in social conversation with an audience. We always share that kinda stuff with each other he actually told me in that funny little sarcastic tone he gets "you gotta see what so and so text me tonight" Its like it both amuses him and confuses him at the same time. Cause in the next breath he said "I dont know why the heck he thinks I want to know that" I dunno I personalty haven't geld well with any of his friends yet. Not for my lack of honest effort on my part mind you but these two are just to much for me all I can do at this point is sit back and laugh to myself really. I agree there is a time and place after all to me ide just text back and nip it in the bud but my bf seriously lacks b@lls!
TheWatcher Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 It sounds like a good life to me. Certainly better than crying because some woman treated like gold broke your heart. It is a good life because you're getting attention/affection from women (which many men neverexperience).You're level of self-esteem & confidence (with regards to dating) is at a decent levelbecause you've proven that you have the ability to attract women and maintain their interest. letting yourself get used and ending up alone at the end of it all na ill pass. I don't think that these men will end up alone.They are able to attract women and I don't see them losing the ability to do so... later on.
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 It is a good life because you're getting attention/affection from women (which many men neverexperience).You're level of self-esteem & confidence (with regards to dating) is at a decent levelbecause you've proven that you have the ability to attract women and maintain their interest. I don't think that these men will end up alone.They are able to attract women and I don't see them losing the ability to do so... later on. There is a difference between being able to score and being able to attract/keep a decent partner no? hence the ending up alone part.
xpaperxcutx Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 I heard when men brag, they double their numbers, so if they've slept with 8 women most likely they only slept with 4. Besides, talking about their number and sexual conquests just seems tacky.
jstalltxga Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 A lot of men brag, but it's a really dumb move. I learned that a long time ago. I was interested in a girl who found out I had said something about us, and it really embarrasses and hurts the girl, if they find out. and honestly if they do, it might be done at that point. I dunno, depends on the people. I have had plenty of guys who are man whores and/or at least brag about it some. in most cases, they are trying to cover up some seriously deep seated issues. they may still be decent guys, but they are just humans who make dumb mistakes like everyone else.
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 I heard when men brag, they double their numbers, so if they've slept with 8 women most likely they only slept with 4. Besides, talking about their number and sexual conquests just seems tacky. I know that I double mine. So when people ask me how many women I have slept with I tell them that I have slept with 0 instead of the real number which is 0.
Sivok Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Guys ~generally~ don't have the choice when it comes to sleeping with women - they have to work for it. Women get hit on left and right, and have plenty of choices of who they choose to be intimate with. In general, it's much easier for a girl to hook up with a random guy anytime she wants than it is for a guy, which is why guys like to brag about their numbers/conquests and the reason for the whole player/whore label.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 It's guy talk not made for female consumption. I hate all this texting and spying crap. Boys will be boys and now technology has given an outlet to braggards and widows for snoops can't leave what was not intended for them alomne. Thus we have threads about man whores--as if that makes sense.
carhill Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 It's guy talk not made for female consumption. Perhaps the OP can get that point across to her BF, who seems hell-bent on sharing the details with her. Good suggestion. Nice compromise
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 It's guy talk not made for female consumption. I hate all this texting and spying crap. Boys will be boys and now technology has given an outlet to braggards and widows for snoops can't leave what was not intended for them alomne. Thus we have threads about man whores--as if that makes sense. Um my bf SHOWED ME this stuff I wasn't snooping! Man who sleeps around like a dog in heat and then telegraphs it to the world in great detail = man whore same for women its simple and makes perfect sense There is a difference between boys will be boys and being a disrespectful man pig or women pig for that matter. Well it came to a head tonight the 30 somthing year old sent my bf the nastiest graphic text talking about his latest conquest and the very intimate details of the oral that happed. BF SHOWS ME me needless to say I hit the roof thats just rude and disrespectful towards me and women in genral. That then led to another round of bf being annoyed at his buddy but not wanting to "stir anything up" Bf wouldn't confront this guy and ask him to please not send such vulgar messages so I did it for him with a actual call. I was nice at 1st and asked him if he could please just not send such stuff he then started to defend himself lets just say it didn't end well after that. I told him exactly how both me and my bf felt about his poor behavior looking back our theory is this guy wants my bf to be single as well just like him his own relationship broke up about a year ago. So now I guess hes going thu his early mid life crisis and has taken to acting like a 19 year old snot nosed school boy bugger that I just don't deal well with childish grown men..
fishtaco Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 (edited) Man whore = stud. Let's not forget the double standard. But it's cheesy because those guys are bragging. Guys could brag about anything. When I was playing hockey regularly, I met guys that bragged about their hockey skills all the time. Most of the time they sucked. Edited July 11, 2010 by fishtaco
Pyro Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 It sounds like a good life to me. Don't you realize how looney this makes you sound? Coming from a supposedly happily married individual. This doesn't help your case at all.
Pyro Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 Whatever floats their boat I guess. They do a good job of keeping the women with self esteem issues away and leave the good ones out for the guys who want a real relationship.
Shakz Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 I honestly believe it's all made up and shared among a circle of"buddies" for some strange psychosexual reason that may very well be suppressed homosexual tendencies.
Nikki Sahagin Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 A lot of my male friends that boast about their sexual encounters are usually lying. Most of them have flat out come out to admit they've either flat out lied or exaggerated the details. I think men tend to think other people are impressed by their sexual conquests. I personally never have been. You know how promiscuous women are presumed to either be daddy's girls or girls that were ignored by their fathers? I always assume promiscuous or boastful men are the same - it smacks of looking for attention, respect or recognition. Not only do you need the validation of numerous sexual partners, which I do not believe all of us need, but you need others to know about and have something to say about it i.e. congratulate you, be shocked by you. These people are generally insecure, immature or just generally attention seeking. I know of girls that boast as well and I think it all comes down to the same three things. They are STARVED of attention or self-worth. They are not content. Yes sex is sex but to boast about is another thing. Whenever i've had sex i've never felt the need to boast about it. Sex is nothing to boast about it. Its one of the easiest things in the world to get. Hardly an achievement.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 11, 2010 Posted July 11, 2010 You know how promiscuous women are presumed to either be daddy's girls or girls that were ignored by their fathers? I always assume promiscuous or boastful men are the same - it smacks of looking for attention, respect or recognition. Not only do you need the validation of numerous sexual partners, which I do not believe all of us need, but you need others to know about and have something to say about it i.e. congratulate you, be shocked by you. These people are generally insecure, immature or just generally attention seeking. I know of girls that boast as well and I think it all comes down to the same three things. They are STARVED of attention or self-worth. They are not content. Yes sex is sex but to boast about is another thing. Whenever i've had sex i've never felt the need to boast about it. Sex is nothing to boast about it. Its one of the easiest things in the world to get. Hardly an achievement. Ditto. When random sex is a conquest to brag about, tantamount to running a 10K, the bragger is deeply insecure and desperate for validation.
GoodOnPaper Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Sex is nothing to boast about it. Its one of the easiest things in the world to get. Hardly an achievement. For women perhaps . . . it can be a very different story for non-player guys. Running a 10K can certainly seem like an easier achievement.
Engadget Posted July 12, 2010 Posted July 12, 2010 Guys do it to impress other guys, and it generally works, sad as that is.
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