chooch Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Been no contact for 3 days solid. I guess she's seeing this other guy but it really doesn't bother me. She gave up on our relationship and will one day realize what she lost by leaving me. Anyways I digress... This morning (day 4 NC) she text. Now I know most people say maintain no contact no matter what and in all honesty my instinct was to delete the text immediately so I didn't feel compelled to reply. Ironically she asked if it was my rabbit's birthday soon - it was yesterday and he was 10 which is pretty old for a rabbit so a big deal i guess. She never seemed all that bothered by my rabbit when we were together (it stayed at my parents when I moved out with my gf). So it's pretty odd that she texted about it. The only thing I know is that my mum put something on fb about it yesterday and my EX gf and my mum have mutual friends. I think she found out through that. Genuinely have no idea why she asked though... maybe trying to mess with my head? However, I've read many 'ex back' guides etc. and they all state that if she makes contact then be civil and reply. I would want a second chance if she presented one in the future but obviously if she thinks I've deliberately ignoring her altogether she might think I wouldn't want one. The guides basically say don't ignore if she texts first but maintain no contact around your reply. Then again it's probs false hope imagining that I would ever get a second chance with this girl. I'm gonna keep NC unless you guys advise otherwise. I'm not sure which is for the best! haha Definitely in the healing stages already. As I say I haven't felt down for last 4 days until this morning. I was beginning to miss her again before she text! Thanks for putting up with my long-winded, repetitive posts. I'm a sucker for this girl. I'm getting over her and re-discovering myself but I think part of me will still love her for a long time to come.
Author chooch Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 You know what? I'm not gonna pander to her every whim. The other day when I texted her to make sure she was ok she said it wasn't my place to be concerned for her anymore. So it's not her concern to get involved in my life if SHE CHOSE not to be a part of it. The last time she text and I ignored she text me 24 hours later all "oh you're ignoring me. Thought you wanted to be friends?"... Well I've had enough. Yes I want you back but I'm not gonna be at your beck and call. IF you ask me back I'll come, but anything less than that and it's not worth the energy spent replying.
Author chooch Posted July 10, 2010 Author Posted July 10, 2010 fighting the temptation... drafted up the text but didn't send it
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 fighting the temptation... drafted up the text but didn't send it TO much drama just hit delete..
DustySaltus Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 So let me get this straight, she contacts you asking how your RABBIT is doing??? Come on man. If I fired you from your job and then called you a week later to ask about a rabbit you talked about...would you find that a little odd? Unless she is beating down your door, apologizes and says that she is willing to do whatever it takes to make it work....all contact is pointless. By the way, happy bday to your bunny.
Author chooch Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 haha - thanks man. I know/ I haven't replied and I'm not going to... If she wants me back she would let me know it! The text itself threw me off guard. So let me get this straight, she contacts you asking how your RABBIT is doing??? Come on man. If I fired you from your job and then called you a week later to ask about a rabbit you talked about...would you find that a little odd? Unless she is beating down your door, apologizes and says that she is willing to do whatever it takes to make it work....all contact is pointless. By the way, happy bday to your bunny.
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