xpaperxcutx Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Does anyone ever feel like if they start dating, or are dating in the pocess, that eventually you don't trust yourself to stay faithful? I know dating means expanding your options and seeing what's out there, but what happens when you meet someone you do potential with and suddenly, bam! you start thinking you might not be able to stick to one relationship. I'm not saying everyone's a cheater, but in a way its a thought process where you're only thinking it versus, actually cheating on your potential SO. It's something to think about.
txsilkysmoothe Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I think the only reason I would be tempted is because I was in a relationship with someone I didn't sincerely want to be with. It's not wise for one to ever enter such a relationship. If one is tempted by another, one has to end one relationship before exploring the potentials elsewhere; by doing so, it wouldn't be cheating. I don't think thoughts of cheating are necessarily an indication one wants to cheat. If I was propositioned by a man, it would lead me to think about the action and the consequences thereof. It wouldn't mean I'm tempted or pre-disposed to cheating. But if I'm thinking about having sex with other men of my own volition, I'm dating the wrong man.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted July 9, 2010 Author Posted July 9, 2010 I think the only reason I would be tempted is because I was in a relationship with someone I didn't sincerely want to be with. It's not wise for one to ever enter such a relationship. Good statement. I never consider myself a cheater, but I can't say that I'm someone who can stay faithful ( even though I crave a LTR). It isn't even that I wouldn't like the guy I'm with, but occasionally when I'm dating someone, I can't help but seek out other people. Maybe the way I go about it falls under multi- dating, but also I feel completely selfish at times for treating someone the way I do.
Gero Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 If I meet someone that I really like, no one else even enters my mind. I've never even considered cheating the very few times that I have been in a relationship. I guess I'm a rare breed though.
alyssatranswarrior Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 (edited) Thinking about sex with different people(a) is way different than thinking about cheating(b). "thinking about cheating" is like if you have an opportunity to do it through a circumstance (some person you meet, who makes it clear they think you are hot and would love some FWB or the like), and you are just weighing the pros and CONS. At this point, you are a "cheater" personality. Wether you did it or not. The thought of cheating is being pondered. If you repel it before even a thought process comes into it you are not a cheater. On the better side, if you have no clear opportunities, but you "fantasize" about people you meet or see (even though there is no flirting or date propositions anywhere near), you might just like thinking about it in a thrill sense. The same way people look at porn even though they are in healthy, good relationships, they still just like the extra spice in their mind. I am a self-confessed (a) and try to be respectful in telling my SO this fact. I'm always cool with my SO to be (a) , but very weary/fearing if they seem to be (b) [dealbreaker :*( ] Edited July 9, 2010 by alyssatranswarrior
Green Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I would just break up with some one if I wanted to date other people. So, the answer is no. I don't think of cheating ever.
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