mr heartbroken Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Hey, A few questions that i have been thinking about! How do you get over your ex? How do you move on? How do you accept that it's over? How do youstop thinking about her? It would be good to know what you think....
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 How do you get over your ex? Time. How do you move on? Time. How do you accept that it's over? Time. How do youstop thinking about her? Time. Answers above.
bananaboat11 Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Answers above. Time is not important. I don't care how much time passes... I will never forget nicole. I eventually will forgive her. Only then will I be able to move on. until then...
HeavenOrHell Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 I was left after 18 years, what worked for me was after 6 months of hell post break up was to then stop all contact, stopped trying to be friends with him, he had feelings for someone else by that point so it was more painful to be in touch than to not be. Seeing him kept up the hope of him coming back to me. The first few days of NC were horrible, but bit by bit I felt a weight being lifted. A year on, I am with someone else and very happy, I am also friends with my ex now and we meet about once a week. Time alone won't help, I had to make the decision to let go and move on after 6 or 7 months, otherwise I could have stayed in the past indefinitely, ugh. I realised I had to make the effort to move on, no-on else could do it for me, things wouldn't change unless I put the effort in. Meeting new people, doing things you enjoy, help distract you. What is the point in continuing to think so much about someone who no longer wants you? Hey, A few questions that i have been thinking about! How do you get over your ex? How do you move on? How do you accept that it's over? How do youstop thinking about her? It would be good to know what you think....
Ilovecake Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Hey, A few questions that i have been thinking about! How do you get over your ex? How do you move on? How do you accept that it's over? How do youstop thinking about her? It would be good to know what you think.... Hahaha If we had those answers this site would not exist. How do I win the lottery?
McGrupp Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 How do you get over your ex? find someone else How do you move on? i literally got up and moved. seemed to help a lot How do you accept that it's over? time will bring acceptance How do youstop thinking about her? keep busy.
messymichelle Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 believe me when i say i have asked those questions so many times, a few said time, a few said faith in yourself but one person said the truth in my case, after crying solidly for an hour on my brothers shoulder, (who by the way isnt one to mince his words ) he just looked at me and said " michelle, look in the mirror, see your puffy eyes, the wieght you lost, remember the sleepless nights, the dull ache in your stomach , the jealousy, anger, self pity you feel, the questions you have that still remain unanwered " you want to know how to get over someone, how to stop thinking about them ect.? what my brother said next willed me to get moving to get focusing on me and my kids, to pick myself up so to speak and brush myself down and take my first step towards healing he said " i have know you for 28 years, you were always there for him, for his needs, to show him love, now when you look at yourself in that mirror, in the state your in( as i described) do you see him standing behind you? ( of course the ****er wasnt!!), you have been through a rollercoaster of emotions, but only you can deal with them and put them to bed and to be quite brutal with you sis i thought you where stronger than this shell (my nickname)" i dont know if this helps you but it was what i needed to hear even if i didnt want to, i still have my bad days wherei think about him constantly, but i also have my good days where i think id love to kick his head in lol every day is a different feeling, put it in the book of experience and start a new chapter, easier said than done, i know, but what else can you do, you control your emotions, actions and pain. my friend i thought you were stonger than that, step forward. one day at a time wish you well
hopesndreams Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Answers above. I disagree, respectfully. You must start training yourself and giving yourself affirmative thoughts. Such thoughts could be. They are not worthy. They f*cked me over and I deserve better. They are poison to me. You can't just wait for time to heal your wounds. How much time do you have? Each day is precious. Live each day as though it were your last.
learned2 love 2late Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 finding someone else is the answer. Quite hard for a guy to do i think, maybe im wrong,, but defo finding someone else is the answer
hopesndreams Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Finding someone else to fill the void is so lame. Taking time to find out who you are and what you want out of life is the most important. After that, the rest falls into place.
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Please don't encourage guys to find another to move on. Mine chose to heed that advice before he walked away from me... I take solace in the fact that he's so emotionally stunted that he'll never get anywhere in life, and I will strive to have everything. I've always had big goals, and I'm almost at the stage where I can start acheiving them...but now? The thought of rubbing my success in his disgusting face is making it all happen so much sooner. So, thank you, jerk!
HeavenOrHell Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 I agree, sleeping with someone else or starting a new relationship very soon after a break up can do more harm than good, we need to find ourselves first before looking for someone else. I'm not into casual sex, for me it would have felt horribly lonely and second rate after being with my lovely ex for 18 years, I would have been wishing it was him and not the new person I rebuild my life bit by bit before I met someone new.
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