JennaLee Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 My husband left me in March. It wasn't a very hard breakup due to him being distant and cold for 4 years prior to the breakup. He wasn't showing me any love, or affection.In fact, he even looked at me with hate. I was so miserable, and lonely for so long, that I figured it was normal for me, and what I deserved- so I stayed. I was stupid for allowing my life to be so miserable. He finally left me, to live with another female.. a female that he's been with for a long time. The signs were there, I turned the other cheek and allowed it to happen. It is NOT my fault he cheated, but it is my fault I allowed it to go on without leaving. Anyway, I meet a man in April. Yes, its soon, but I met him and adored him from the beginning. We hit it off right away. He treats me the way my husband never treated me, he makes me smile, never raises his voice, and is just..wonderful. After all I've been through, I would figure I would be insecure, and worried about being hurt again, but I am not. I trust this man 100%. My problem is this. My husband, is abusive.. verbally, mentally and physically. He has pushed me into a wall, put his hand around my neck and threatened me in the past. A month ago, we were arguing over the phone about our 6 year old son, and he says to me, "Don't piss me off, I will go over there and choke the eff out of you. And even though you took your keys away, I can get in" I called the cops, they didn't do ANYTHING. I got a temporary restraining order(all they would give me) and now I feel this could ruin my relationship because he doesn't like me talking to my husband. He feels that I will somehow get hurt. He says to let the courts to do the talking. I have NEVER been in this kind of situation, and I would love to hear how someone who has handled it. I want a divorce, but I just don't even know where to start. I can't afford a laywer. What is the divorce process? How would I start, where do I go? How do I not let this harm my current relationship? Ad how do I do this without the most important person in my life( my son) suffering?
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