danis Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Help...I'm very suspicious of my H' phone activiites and the acct is in my name. Should I snoop at the records...I'm kind of scared at what I might find.
PortuguesePrincess80 Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Better to know the truth either way! IF its under your name...do you think he would that stupid? Who knows...I know I'd snoop!
Audacia Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Ask him first. If you feel he's lying then go for it. If you find something then ask him about it. If you don't then let it rest. If you find out later there was something going on then you'll beat yourself up for not looking.
sally4sara Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 If the bill is in your name, I'm not sure it qualifies as snooping. But what do you hope to find out by looking at the bill that you don't already know? What is it about his phone activity that is so suspicious? All a bill will tell you is what numbers were called and what numbers call the phone. It will not tell you their name. If the number calling is another cell or an unlisted number, you can't so easily find out their name. And you won't be able to tell what the conversations were about. So if you look at the bill, and see one particular number peppered predominantly through the history - are you prepared to call it and ask for information about who they are and why they talk so often to your spouse? Is it possible or likely that your husband would need to speak to anyone so often for his work? How do you think it would come across if the number is strictly a professional contact and you call asking for dodgy details?
martini-mae Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 He won't tell the truth & once you ask, then the odds are that he'll start deleting everything - because he'll realize you're suspicious. I'd snoop. But by all means be careful, make sure you're prepared for what you might find & how you will deal with it once you do find whatever it is. Hope for the best ~ Prepare for the worst.
PortuguesePrincess80 Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Aren't you the one who had an EA for several years? You should KNOW all the tricks, why ask us! Payback is a bitch .....isn't it. Hahaha...looks like karma is a bitch!
ladydesigner Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Yes Karma/Payback is a bitch. In my situation my H just doesn't know it yet. It's my little secret. Not that I believe in Karma but my Revenge Affair was my H's payback. Sorry it came out this way...ooops
ladydesigner Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Sorry double post. No really any way you look at it it sucks. Sorry to the OP that you find yourself in this situation.
Mrs Love Conciair Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Look at the phone bill. And let's STOP calling it SNOOPING. You have EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD to make sure you mate is putting 100% into your relationship as you are.
califnan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Look at the phone bill. And let's STOP calling it SNOOPING. You have EVERY RIGHT IN THE WORLD to make sure you mate is putting 100% into your relationship as you are. -------------------- I agree.
califnan Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Also, Many numbers can be verified by Google. I believe only cell phones cannot be checked out on there..
spriggig Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Yes, snoop. It's probably just your guilty conscience. If he is cheating, you don't deserve to be cheated on. Yes, I see that you had a long EA, but NO ONE, not even a cheater, deserves to be cheated on. On the other hand you don't really have a leg to stand on, do you? So, when you catch him, confront him and then confess. Then end this sham of a marriage. Or, buckle down and finally commit to each other. Because, really, you can do the work with him or you can do the work with the next guy. Either way you have to do the work and it might as well be with someone in which you have so much in common (maybe).
BlackLovely Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Both having or have had affairs and snooping?? What kind of marriage is this?? I don't understand why you are still married to each other.
Green Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Why are you concerned. If its because he is spending time with some women... Then yes he is cheating. Look you should just grab his cell phone and look through it. You could also hack his emails and read them. Finaly if all of that doesn't calm you down just TALK to him. If you find something what are you going to do. Just believe him when he lies about it?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 10, 2010 Posted July 10, 2010 Should I snoop at the records.... Yes! should you believe the bs lie he will more then likely tell you afterwards NO hope this helped some
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