tangled Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 (edited) So I have this guy friend (I am female for the record) who I was best friends (actually only friend) with from 2nd grade to 4th grade but he kind of broke it off from 5th grade through freshman year because of the pressures from guys and all of the teasing of having a friend of the opposite gender and all. However, we did still see each other often because of school and I still visited his house because our families became good friends so giving gifts for birthdays, holidays and such was completely normal. So anyways, we started getting close again from sophomore year and we finished junior year. Now it's summer, and suddenly it's kind of, odd. He invited me to his house to hang out, but we sat in complete silence for I think like 5 hours, until his mom and sister got home and I could talk to them for some time. In addition, he is getting a little cold to me. He's perfectly normal when he is with his other friends, and we do share quite a few friends, especially since most of my friends are male (I'm not a flirt or anything. I just like video games and find that I connect with them easily. I hang with them almost like one of the guys, but still a little feminine, well, kind of...) When we are in a group we get along wonderfully; we understand each other well, we joke around, and generally just act like normal friends. There is one guy friend we share, lets call him Mike, who we hang out with a lot together and who has a girlfriend but is in a bad relationship right now, that I talk to really really easily. (Let's start calling this guy friend George for simplicity's sake) So I noticed that when I'm talking to Mike, I'm really animated and we talk easily, and George gets annoyed. But, when George and I are alone, he won't take the opportunity to talk to me, so I have no idea why he would be upset. Also, he acts as if he is annoyed with everything (o.k. well not everything, but quite a bit) I say. I try to start a conversation, or I ask a question, and he tells me that it's a stupid question and that I should think it through. (for the record, I have much better grades than him) Of course, the question was stupid, but I was thinking that since Mike would have just laughed and joked with me, George took it quite seriously. However, what I don't understand is why George would invite Mike and I to hang out with us, me especially, if he finds me that annoying. I mean why invite me to hang out with him if he just acts cold, irritated, or just plain uninterested? Is he just upset that i can talk to Mike better than him? Because really, I do value George's friendship a little more just because of the history and because we've been through a lot together. Sure we weren't always on the best terms, but for some reason he can just instantly flip my mood (though it can be for the worse because if he's in a horrid mood, it can flip my mood if I can't get him to feel better) Quite honestly, I have no idea what to do with him. I would like to ask him what's going on, but have no idea how to do so and I am scared of his reaction. Any ideas? Thanks! Edited July 9, 2010 by tangled
StarrySkyBlue Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Could you clarify a little bit about your hanging out with George? What do you do when you hang out? Watch TV? I can't imagine you both sitting there doing nothing for 5 hours without talking. That seems very strange.
Author tangled Posted July 9, 2010 Author Posted July 9, 2010 Well, we both sit on 2 different couches, and then he just goes off and watches TV or plays video games, and well, i Kind of sit there. I don't know what to say, quite honestly. And he glances in my direction, or I've caught him looking at me but it was too quick for me to read his expression. Usually, this occurs after we study together, and we just relax, but I found it odd that once he invited me and we did just that. But at some point, it really was just doing nothing, sitting there. It only lasted 30 minutes before he found something to do. I ended up playing with his dog, as usual. =\ It IS strange, no? I mean why invite me to his house just to sit around? The same thing happens when Mike is around. When we have the same "hanging out" activity as above, I end up talking to Mike and George watches TV or gets upset that I guess I'm talking to Mike and not him. Perhaps he is upset that I can talk to Mike more than him even though we've known each other for so long? or perhaps because my grades are equal with Mike's (because really, we mostly talk about school) and his grades are lower.
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