sao2 Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 Not in love. At least not like I was with her. With her I felt so much more alive. The highs were so high and the lows were so low. It has been a year since we have spoken and 4 since she offered anything resembling a relationship(3 years since we broke up). Am I over things, I think so, I don't think I was wrong in our breakup, we stopped talking over a "mexican standoff" type situation regarding my expectations from a relationship and her ability/readiness to meet them. Now I am with someone awesome, who shares my expectations from a relationship. To be honest, the new girl and I have so much in common it is ridiculous. But . . . I am not in love with the new girl, at least not like I was. I am 100% positive that presented with the opportunity to reunite with "her", I would know that the correct choice would be to stick with the new girl but I am pretty sure that I would be more tempted to give "her" another chance. It scares me to be honest because I have a weakness for "her" that I don't have for the new girl. Part of me wants to find someone that I have that weakness for. I wish I could say it was about attraction but it is not. The two girls are at least similar in levels of attraction. Anyways, my dilemna every day. Keep searching for something more or be happy and content with a woman who will do everything until the day she dies to make me happy(I am sure of it) Of course I know the answer but it helps to type it out and to hear it from others.
Ilovecake Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 You can't force yourself to be in love with someone. I too have an ex that nobody could possibly top. We dated for 6 years and broke up 12 years a go, on good terms. He married the girl after me and is extremely happy with her. I actually met her last year and she's awesome I'm happy he found someone so perfect for him but sad that she's not me. We didn't really stay friends except for birthday wishes. he hasn't missed my birthday in 12 years. It's weird. I learned to live with the great memories and have had significant relationships since. My last ex I loved very much but it just wasn't the same love. I think you just learn to appreciate the memories because there is no other choice and you concentrate on the here and now.
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