jman2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 So I meet a girl at a bar last week. She approached me and we had a great conversation. She hinted all night that she wanted to hang out more and gave me her number. We ended up going out the next night and had a great time. We had planned a 3rd meeting that she canceled with a seemingly real reason 3 hours before the date. So I gave her another chance and asked her out again which she seemed very into. I made reservations at a nice place and 5 hours before the date she canceled again for some reason or another. She did say to call her again to go out but I am thinking I am just wasting my time. Am I wrong on this one.
Cracker Jack Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Well, if she canceled twice within hrs like that, you probably are wasting your time. If she really would like to hang-out with you more, then allow her to contact you and arrange a date. You don't need to do it at this point.
Serenitynow Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 It doesnt matter what she SAYS she wants to do. It what she does that counts. Some people will be totally nice with you, and keep making excuses, hoping eventually you give up and stop contact. That way they dont have to get thier hands dirty. I would definitely let her make plans for the next adventure. .
reservoirdog1 Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Well, if she canceled twice within hrs like that, you probably are wasting your time. If she really would like to hang-out with you more, then allow her to contact you and arrange a date. You don't need to do it at this point. What he said. If she really wants to see you, she'll contact you. And if she doesn't, you know she's not interested. Meantime, pursue other women.
fishtaco Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 When she canceled, should have put the ball in her court. Tell her you would like to take her out again, and have her call you and let you know when she's free. Then you move on. This way you don't have to make/cancel reservations, or any of the annoying stuff. If she calls back, great, if not, whatever, you're off hitting on other women anyway. I'd say her interest level in you is low.
USMCHokie Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 When she canceled, should have put the ball in her court. Tell her you would like to take her out again, and have her call you and let you know when she's free. This. The moment she canceled the first time, you should have told her to let you know when she can go out with you. That's all she should get from you.
Gallaxia Posted July 9, 2010 Posted July 9, 2010 (edited) So I meet a girl at a bar last week. She approached me and we had a great conversation. She hinted all night that she wanted to hang out more and gave me her number. We ended up going out the next night and had a great time. We had planned a 3rd meeting that she canceled with a seemingly real reason 3 hours before the date. So I gave her another chance and asked her out again which she seemed very into. I made reservations at a nice place and 5 hours before the date she canceled again for some reason or another. She did say to call her again to go out but I am thinking I am just wasting my time. Am I wrong on this one. Hm. It does seem a little suspect. Flip it on her. Tell her "Sorry we didn't meet up before. If you want to (ABC), let me know when's a good time for you" or "if you're interested in (ABC)"... something like that and just leave it at that. You WILL know from her response to this. Edited July 9, 2010 by Gallaxia
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