Girl I'm dating tells me that she doesn't kiss until in an exclusive relationship

[alphamale]

This is the sweetest girl who wouldn't tell a lie, she's too good natured. I actually believe her that she really is busy.

dude - #1 she probably isn't that innocent and #2 she probably isn't that busy.

 

a girl that wouldn't tell a lie, hahahaAAhAHhHAa

[phineas]

I always laugh when people come here about someone they met on a dateing site that is too "busy" to spend time with them.

 

seriously? What the fook are they doing on a dateing site looking for a relationship when they don't have time to date?

 

OP, your infatuated with this woman.

I get that.

 

but you've been with women before.

Women who want to be with you make time for you.

 

I agree with everyone else, she has another guy.

I've "dated" women before & have met their parents, family ect & not once did they mention to me about the guy she brought over the week before.

 

Hell, when my cousin still lived at home he could have two different women over for dinner with his parents 2 nights in a row & nobody said a damn thing to the girls.

 

If this girl is calling you a "friend" or just telling her mom she's just getting to know you she could have a different guy every day of the week there & you wouldn't know.

 

Because Mom is covering for her.

[carhill]

Wow, so true. Sounds like another guy who was socialized like I was, to trust and respect women intrinsically. That's the most f*cked-up kind of socialization there is.

 

Tear down that pedestal, Mr. StuckWithEharmony

[Phateless]

OP, it seems to me you're missing the "real" point here.

 

All anyone including yourself can do is to "speculate" about what she may be doing when you're not around, why, and/or who with she might be doing it.

 

So some of us have thrown out some possibilities such as other boyfriend.

 

Regardless, the real problem is that, at the very beginning of a potential relationship, the "ground rules" that are being established are that you've completely put her up on a pedestal (she's innocent, would never lie, can do no wrong, etc.), she has all of the power in the relationship, you have none, and she really doesn't value you, your time, or your feelings.

 

So, the real point is, even if you "win"--that is, even if you "get the girl"--then you lose.

 

You're chasing after something--a woman, a relationship--that is not worth having. It's because you've idealized/pedestaled this woman, and you can't see what's right in front of your face: she's basically been treating you like cr*ap.

 

The reason you should drop her, right now, is simply because she doesn't value you the way one person should value another in a healthy mutual relationship. And she's showed that at the very beginning--no, before the beginning--of the relationship, when she supposedly should be on her "best behavior."

 

Friend, if a woman doesn't have any time for you, yet she's talking about being in an "exclusive relationship" with you, she's either a serious head case, a liar, just not that into you, or some mixed up combination of things.

 

You don't NEED this woman, her "issues," or the baggage that would come with being in a relationship with a woman like this.

 

Even if you "win," you lose. With a woman like this, starting out like you've described, you'll always lose.

 

Completely agree with V. V. You are starting out in a relationship that is 100% on her terms. What happens if you need something? Will she make accommodations for you? It sounds like it's all about her needs and it's tough crap for you on everything else.

[Mary3]

" Too Busy " = " Not Very Interested In You "