What are your deal breakers?

[Disillusioned]

So we can probably agree on the basic ones like cheating, hitting, wearing black socks with sandals, etc. But what are some other deal breakers that you never thought existed until they became, well, a deal breaker?

 

Negative personality traits.

1. selfishness

2. lying

3. mean-spiritedness (women will be women, but please try to tone that one down a bit)

4. too pleasure-centered, i.e. likes to do dangerous athletic things or use drugs

[Taramere]

My notion of a deal-breaking douchebag who I wouldn't want to share a room, let alone a bed, with would do the following

 

1. Drive around town, in good weather, causing endless hold ups due to his insistence on driving the kind of large, gas-guzzling vehicle that was designed to handle rough terrain rather than be negotiated through narrow, winding, European streets.

2. Go on a holiday that would consist of 1 week's sex tourism in Thailand, and 1 week poaching endangered species in Africa.

3. Drop his litter in areas of outstanding natural beauty while yelling into his mobile phone.

4. Visit the great sights of the world and observe them almost exclusively through a camera lens, before swiftly switching his attention to the souvenir shops.

6. Regard life as a series of "been there, done that" boxes to be ticked

7. Has a list of favoured critics whose opinions will guide him as to what he should think of various films and pieces of music.

8. Is generally so lacking in positive, likeable traits or talents, that he obtains some shaky sense of self by accentuating those aspects of himself that he knows others find particularly unpleasant.

[Shakz]

My notion of a deal-breaking douchebag who I wouldn't want to share a room, let alone a bed, with would do the following

 

1. Drive around town, in good weather, causing endless hold ups due to his insistence on driving the kind of large, gas-guzzling vehicle that was designed to handle rough terrain rather than be negotiated through narrow, winding, European streets.

2. Go on a holiday that would consist of 1 week's sex tourism in Thailand, and 1 week poaching endangered species in Africa.

3. Drop his litter in areas of outstanding natural beauty while yelling into his mobile phone.

4. Visit the great sights of the world and observe them almost exclusively through a camera lens, before swiftly switching his attention to the souvenir shops.

6. Regard life as a series of "been there, done that" boxes to be ticked

7. Has a list of favoured critics whose opinions will guide him as to what he should think of various films and pieces of music.

8. Is generally so lacking in positive, likeable traits or talents, that he obtains some shaky sense of self by accentuating those aspects of himself that he knows others find particularly unpleasant.

 

I hope your not speaking from experience, TM, because those traits all sounds like they belong to the same guy.

[BobSacamento]

1. Not college educated

2. No ambition

3. Too religious

4. Doesn't believe in abortion

5. Doesn't like to try new foods

 

Didn't think I'd care about these things until I dated girls with these traits...

 

Doesn't believe in abortion? Like it's a myth lol.

 

I know what you mean though. Women like this just don't get it.

[Taramere]

I hope your not speaking from experience, TM, because those traits all sounds like they belong to the same guy.

 

Haha. No...I suppose it's just an exaggerated version of a certain type of person I've encountered from time to time. The box ticker. I added in "poaching endangered species" just because that would just be the sh*t icing on the cake o' crap for me.

[Shakz]

Haha. No...I suppose it's just an exaggerated version of a certain type of person I've encountered from time to time. The box ticker. I added in "poaching endangered species" just because that would just be the sh*t icing on the cake o' crap for me.

 

Whew! Good to hear.

 

I booked a week's sex tourism in Africa last year because I couldn't afford Bangkok Bacchanalia's exhorbitant prices. It was an okay trip, but those wildebeests weren't half as forthcoming as the brochure suggested.

 

Mmmmm, crap cake! Where's my BTDT list?

[Taramere]

Whew! Good to hear.

 

I booked a week's sex tourism in Africa last year because I couldn't afford Bangkok Bacchanalia's exhorbitant prices. It was an okay trip, but those wildebeests weren't half as forthcoming as the brochure suggested.

 

Try camels next time. As you'll see from

, their dealbreakers lists are probably shorter than are the wildebeests'.

[SilentVoice]

That's a pretty good list, SV, although I completely disagree with deal-braker #11.

haha............

[Shakz]

Try camels next time. As you'll see from

, their dealbreakers lists are probably shorter than are the wildebeests'.

 

Mother of God! Next vacation I'm going to a monastery.

[Gattica]

Alcohol or drug problems.

 

Hung up on ex.

 

Only asks superficial questions.

 

No sense of humor.

 

No interest in music...I don't care if it isn't what I listen to or not.

 

Will not get STD tested.

 

Will not use condoms.

 

Is my short list.

[Confusedalways]

-Has no relationship with his family

-Obsessed with dogs

-Talks down to me/ at me like I'm stupid. Not in a mean way but like I'm a child

-Talks over me

-Anti cursing/ swearing whatever you want to call it

-Anti hilarious jokes

[bananaboat11]

IF SHE FARTS IN BED AND THROWS THE COVERS OVER MY HEAD.

[Tayla]

1. Poor hygiene and dental care

2: Lacks common sense

3: Arrogant and self righteous

4: Is still sorta kinda well..separated , maybe really umm not divorced. (their words not mine! I ran for the hills)

5: Has Divorce papers and still talks to the ex daily just to catch up on the Good ole days. Then proceeds to take EX and the child on a camping trip while I am told he is legally obligated to take his son on a trip, its in their custody agreement. Wheres it written that she comes along though??? Ergo: DEALBREAKER

6: Thinks Money entitles them to be above common etiquette.

7: Abusive- verbally- physically or mentally.

8: Talks to any waiting staff or public servant as if they are SUBSERVIANT. Learned from my mom: If out for dinner and your date is rude, dismissive or in any way treats the wait staff unkindly dump him. Actions speak louder then words.

9: Republican

10: Staunch Republican

11: Reformed Republican

11.1a Did I mention Republican????

12: Two certain practicing faiths that are purist.I'll leave it at that

13: Has kids by various women and considers it his duty to make booty calls as child support payments.

14:Has not passed the Tour of Duty in the bedroom. Need I say more? If you have never been to the mountain don't come down in the valley.

[gamma1]

14:Has not passed the Tour of Duty in the bedroom. Need I say more? If you have never been to the mountain don't come down in the valley.

How are you going to know if he doesn't tell you? What if he never tells you?

[You'reasian]

So we can probably agree on the basic ones like cheating, hitting, wearing black socks with sandals, etc. But what are some other deal breakers that you never thought existed until they became, well, a deal breaker?

 

Lack of communication.

 

Communication is required for the survival of a relationship..

[Tayla]

How are you going to know if he doesn't tell you? What if he never tells you?

 

LOL! Umm the Tour of duty is a local terminolgy us ladies use for a guy who is very limited in his bedroom skills. So I am 99.9% sure I would know if he hasnt been around the world so to speak. ITs by far NOT a military term. WHich reminds me, I need to add two more deal breakers:

1: Minutemen ( yet again not a military term, but how long they last)

2: Military men - Now this is a military terminology and is a Deal breaker right along side republicans

[gamma1]

LOL! Umm the Tour of duty is a local terminolgy us ladies use for a guy who is very limited in his bedroom skills. So I am 99.9% sure I would know if he hasnt been around the world so to speak. ITs by far NOT a military term. WHich reminds me, I need to add two more deal breakers:

1: Minutemen ( yet again not a military term, but how long they last)

2: Military men - Now this is a military terminology and is a Deal breaker right along side republicans

So what are you going to do about it if he hasn't been through the "Tour of Daty"? Run out of the bedroom crying if you find out and break up immediately or deal the fact that possibly the first couple times might not be as good as the next thousands of times?

 

Don't assume that someone who hasn't had a "Tour of Duty" is necessarily a minuteman.

Edited July 12, 2010 by gamma1

[Tayla]

So what are you going to do about it if he hasn't been through the "Tour of Daty"? Run out of the bedroom crying if you find out and break up immediately or deal the fact that possibly the first couple times might not be as good as the next thousands of times?

 

Don't assume that someone who hasn't had a "Tour of Duty" is necessarily a minuteman.

 

Thank you for your difference of opinion. To be polite to anyone who is lacking in natural inclinations then yeah...I do call it a day. No I dont cry about it, its not my sorrow to deal with . ITs theirs to come to terms with. I am upfront and clear on that level. A real gent would know how to perform and not do so during a commercial break. It takes longer to make popcorn then some guys give to the act. To some guys they do not care for frigid ladies and that is a okay...same thing in my book.

[gamma1]

Thank you for your difference of opinion. To be polite to anyone who is lacking in natural inclinations then yeah...I do call it a day. No I dont cry about it, its not my sorrow to deal with . ITs theirs to come to terms with. I am upfront and clear on that level. A real gent would know how to perform and not do so during a commercial break. It takes longer to make popcorn then some guys give to the act. To some guys they do not care for frigid ladies and that is a okay...same thing in my book.

How are you up front about it?

 

I know that it is not something you do in a few minutes. I also will not do it until I'm well into a loving relationship. I sadly know that most women will want to break up if they find out about my inexperience. I'm fully aware that most women expect men my age to have at least a certain amount of experience. I expect her to be quite upset if she finds out. I'll be open about most things, but not about my past sexual experiences which there are none. I have no choice but to withhold this information.

Edited July 14, 2010 by gamma1

[sarah1268]

My list is

 

-Can't make me laugh

-Takes himself too seriously

-Doesnt like the same music

-Isnt ambitious and doesnt have goals

- Isnt genuine

-Doesnt have many friends

-Is jealous and too protective

-Isnt as intelligent as me

-Doesnt make me feel confident or sure of myself

-Is religious

[Els]

Some of you guys would probably be better off making a 'what AREN'T my dealbreakers' list, methinks. Would be shorter and easier.

[rawr]

1) I will not date anyone who doesn't share my religious beliefs...not necessarily to a T but in general. A belief in a higher power is sufficient.

 

2) I'm a liberal so a conservative republican and I would eventually tear each others heads off. No republicans. Period.

 

3) Poor work ethic is such a turn off. I've worked full time since I was 14. If I can do it, he can too. I have 2 teenage children to raise and support. Don't need another.

 

4) I refuse to date anyone younger than me. Can't explain why...

 

5) Bad breath. Ugh. Sick.

 

6) If he has children but isn't in their lives he's a goner. I don't want anyone near my sons who isn't taking care of his own.

 

7) Having 3 toes on one foot and feeling the need to show everybody everywhere we go. PUT YOUR SHOE BACK ON DUDE! NOBODY WANTS TO SEE YOUR JACKED UP FOOT! (Yes, this really happened to me. It was a birth defect...he was so proud apparently.)

 

8) It helps if he has his teeth and can read and write.

[jenngem]

1. lies

2. homophobic

3. thinks women belong in the kitchen

4. can't stimulate me intellectually

5. doesn't give me space

6. doesn't have any own interests or ambitions

[MrNate]

If there is absolutely nothing to grab!

 

Sorry but I like to grab.

[zengirl]

People who talk about dealbreakers.

 

Beyond that, people I find unattractive or incompatible.