RuinedMyLife Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 If you love someone would you forgive them for making one momentary emotional mistake if they apologised? I know I mention this in my Utter Despair post too... but this question really is driving me crazy... Can one mistake like that really cause someone to stop loving you??
Disintegration Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 I think it really depends on the situation. Apologizing can make a difference however if it had to do with cheating, that is a difficult thing to forgive, whether in love or not. It depends really on the circumstance.
Author RuinedMyLife Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 I think it really depends on the situation. Apologizing can make a difference however if it had to do with cheating, that is a difficult thing to forgive, whether in love or not. It depends really on the circumstance. Well it was nothing to do with cheating. I just had a mood swing/ complained about a sexual act that made me unhappy. I admit I didn't voice my issues well. But I didn't raise my voice in anger either. Is that really unforgivable? If you love someone wouldn't you forgive that? I know I over-reacted/ was in the wrong, but I did apologise several times. I guess it just hurt him too much?
Disintegration Posted July 8, 2010 Posted July 8, 2010 Oh I see, well I think if you give your SO a little time to cool off things will be fine. Complaining about a sexual act can spoil the mood and hurt egos, it can be a sensitive matter. Honesty is good as long as you aren't mean about it I suppose. I think your SO was insulted but I think if you talk it out, you'll have a better understanding of what is okay and off limits. Communication should help some. I think he will come around, and forgive what was said, you were apologetic so that is helpful.
Author RuinedMyLife Posted July 8, 2010 Author Posted July 8, 2010 Oh I see, well I think if you give your SO a little time to cool off things will be fine. Complaining about a sexual act can spoil the mood and hurt egos, it can be a sensitive matter. Honesty is good as long as you aren't mean about it I suppose. I think your SO was insulted but I think if you talk it out, you'll have a better understanding of what is okay and off limits. Communication should help some. I think he will come around, and forgive what was said, you were apologetic so that is helpful. I don't think he's ever going to forgive me. When he broke up with me, he said "Its over" and "There's no going back". So I think thats pretty final. I did send him a final apology/ goodbye email as we parted on such bad terms. And in the email I did say I hoped one day he could forgive me. But he hasn't responded and I don't expect him to. Its over for good. I just want to know if it is possible that he really stopped loving me and broke up with me just because of what I said/ how I acted on one night, or whether he was likely thinking of ending it for sometime? I just I feel so guilty about hurting him and ruining the relationship. I wish I could forgive myself. But when even the one I loved, the one I thought was my best friend and soul mate can't forgive me.... I don't know whether I'll ever be able to forgive myself. Also I did have a chance to explain myself, but I was in a complete state of shock at the time/ had had no sleep for 28 hours or something crazy... and I just didn't. He didn't try to talk about it either though. He just proceeded to dump me after I apologised. I'll never forget the ice cold look in his eyes as he was telling me its over... I just hate myself so much for ruining things like that.
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